Reasons You Don’t Have A Stable Man Yet...

1. You’re not loving and affectionate. Sometimes women go through so many bad relationships, that by the time they meet a man that could be good for them, they are unaffectionate and distant. Don’t let your past bad relationships stop you from being a friendly, warm, affectionate and loving woman. It’s okay to tell a man how you feel about him. Don’t hold back.

2. You’re picky. In this day and age, women make good money and have higher expectations of men. Some women are looking for something specific, like a man that makes a six-figure salary, is 6’7″ tall and has brown chestnut skin. There is nothing wrong with knowing what you want. But does he really have to be 6’7″? No, he doesn’t. Give a shorter man a chance.

3. You can’t make a good pitcher of Kool-Aid (Joking)… Cooking is very important. If you find yourself with a good man, you should take it upon yourself to cook a good meal for him. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy, just something to let him know that he will be well fed if he chooses to be with you.

4. You’re the home girl. You’re quick to roll one up, go do errands, curse and you have countless “home boys” that come over on the low low. This is a bad sign. You’re the home girl that the fellas can call to come through, smoke one with, rent a cheap motel room, have get some action with, feed you some food and send you home. How does that make you feel? Not too good about yourself. This is a clear sign that you’re doing things wrong. It’s great to be useful, but not so useful that you’re being used.

5. You’re loud, obnoxious and ghetto. These reasons are so obvious. At a certain point in a woman’s life, she should be able to analyze the things she is doing wrong. You shouldn’t have to look around and see all of your friends are getting married or in relationships while you’re still dating this guy. Be feminine, lower your voice and be a woman. Your girls may laugh at your antics, but who’s going home alone at the end of the day?

In conclusion, GirlsAffair is admonished as many that will read through this clip not to take it personal but ponder on it and make necessary amendment cum corrections. Remember, I love and appreciate you all.

Cheers.

Wonderful Ways to Use Your Words

A word fitly spoken and in due season is like apples of gold in settings of silver.—Proverbs 25:11

Words matter.

They can build up or tear down. They can impart wisdom or bring shame. They can deliver encouragement or deflate the spirit. Words can be a weapon or a healing balm. A welcome sound or a dreaded racket. And words can even change the world. Who knows just how many pivotal points in history would have been changed if someone had used their words differently.

Five Powerful Phrases to Speak to Your Spouse

I trust your judgment.
I’m glad I married you.
Here is what I appreciate most about you...
I am with you.
Being your wife has taught me...

Five Powerful Phrases to Speak to Your Child

You can do it.
A happy memory I have of when you were younger is...
I am confident you can make good choices.
Being your mom has taught me...
God has an amazing life planned for you.

Five Powerful Phrases to Speak to Your Parent

I’m not sure if I’ve ever told you before, but thank you for...
A wonderful memory I have of my childhood is...
I admire your strength.
How can I help you?
I am proud of you for...

Five Powerful Phrases to Speak to Your Friend

My favourite thing about our friendship is...
The best time I ever had with you was when...
I am with you all the way.
The character quality I most admire in you is...
You remind me of Jesus when you...

Your Turn...

Do you sometimes feel like you have very little influence in the lives around you?

What are you talking about?!

Your words, your speech, the way you talk — you have tremendous power!

And your life-giving words are needed by the people around you — family, friends, neighbors, pastors, co-workers, bosses, and every person you interact within your normal daily routine.

Who needs your encouraging words today?

Your words are sure to bless your recipient!

Cheers. 

You Can Find Happiness...

I  couldn't resist sharing this beautiful story 😊

This story is about a beautiful, expensively dressed lady who complained to her psychiatrist that she felt that her whole life was empty, it had no meaning.

So, the lady went to visit a counselor to seek out happiness.

The counselor called over the old lady who cleans the office floors.

The counselor then said to the rich lady "I'm going to ask Mary here to tell you how she found happiness. All I want you to do is listen to her."

So the old lady put down her broom and sat on a chair and told her story:

"Well, my husband died of malaria and three months later my only son was killed by a car. I had nobody. I had nothing left. I couldn't sleep, I couldn't eat, I never smiled at anyone, I even thought of taking my own life. 

Then, one evening a little cat followed me home from work. Somehow I felt sorry for that cat. It was cold outside, so I decided to let the cat in. I got some milk, and the cat licked the plate clean. Then it purred and rubbed against my leg and, for the first time in months, I smiled.

Then I stopped to think, if helping a little cat could make me smile, may be doing something for people could make me happy.

So, the next day I baked some biscuits and took them to a neighbor who was sick in bed.

Every day I tried to do something nice for someone. It made me so happy to see them happy.

Today, I don't know of anybody who sleeps and eats better than I do.

I've found happiness, by giving it to others."

When she heard this, the rich lady cried. She had everything that money could buy, but she had lost the things which money cannot buy.

"The beauty of life does not depend on how happy you are; but on how happy others can be because of you..."

Happiness is not a destination, it's a journey. 

Happiness is not tomorrow, it is now. 

Happiness is not dependency, it is a decision. 

Happiness is what you are, not what you have..😊 

I appreciate you.

Cheers. 

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All Because of You

Because of You...

I was self sufficient,

gratified by my independence,

alone, but not lonely,

I thought.

But I was restless,

searching blindly for something

to fill an empty place.

I didn't even know I had,

dimly aware that I was somehow unfinished.

Then you came,

and filled everything,

every space, every need,

even secret dreams

I had concealed from myself.

I was self sufficient, and restless;

Now, I am profoundly peaceful

and complete, because of you.

Much thoughts...

Dream Come True

A Dream Fulfilled

How could anyone ever know,

The sweet dreams that I dreamt as a youth,

Could blossom and focus and grow,

Until now they’d turn up as a truth.

A truth filled with blessing and wonder,

A truth filled with love and with caring,

A truth with a voice loud as thunder,

A truth with a message worth sharing.

For you, my love, filled all my dreams,

Of a life I thought never could be.

Now with you at my side, I’m contented;

For my dreaming came true, don’t you see?

I never gave up on my dreaming,

I persisted because I just knew,

A wait for real love is worth waiting,

Now you’re here, and my dreams have come true.

"Eleven Hints for Life"

1. It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return. But what is more painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel.

2. A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and you just have to let go.

3. The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.

4. It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.

5. It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone-but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.

6. Don't go for looks, they can deceive. Don't go for wealth, even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright.

7. Dream what you want to dream, go where you want to go, be what you want to be. Because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.

8. Always put yourself in the other's shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the person too.

9. A careless word may kindle strife. A cruel word may wreck a life. A timely word may level stress. But a loving word may heal and bless.

10. The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.

11. Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, ends with a tear. 

When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. 

Live your life so that when you die, you're the one smiling and everyone around you is crying.

Cheers. 

The diary of Value

Value! 

What do you value in life? What you value will definitely tell what your life is all about.

Value is something held to deserve, the importance, worth or usefulness of something. That is something you cherish and take very important.

As a young dreamer, how much do you value your time? If you don't value your life, you can't value your time.

That reminds me of the primary school rhyme about time which says, "Tick says the clock, Tick tick, what you have to do, do quick."

You need to know how to manage your calender, else you won't have anything to count at the end of the day.

Remember, Time managers are destiny makers. Destiny makers are life changers. Life changers are world shakers. World shakers are record breakers. Record breakers are history makers.

What would you want generations to come to talk about you? Is it how you refused to generate great things or how you were able to turn history around because you valued it?

Cheers!

Goal Setting - Begin with the End in Mind.

In life, the first thing you must do is decide what you really want or better still what you are passionate on. Weigh the costs and the results. Are the results worthy of the costs? Then make up your mind completely and go after your goal with all your might. 

However, goal setting is achievable if you follow these six steps for effective and successful accomplishment. 

• You need to deeply desire the goal or resolution. Napoleon Hill, in his landmark book, Think and Grow Rich, had it right. "The starting point of all achievement is desire. Keep this constantly in mind. Weak desires bring weak results, just as a small amount of fire makes a small amount of heat." So, your first step in goal setting and achieving your dreams is that you've got to really, really want to achieve the goal. 

• Visualize yourself achieving the goal. Lee Iacocca said, "The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind." What will your achievement feel like? How will your life unfold differently as a result? If the goal is a thing, some gurus of goal setting recommend that you keep a picture of the item where you see and are reminded of it every day. If you can’t picture yourself achieving the goal, chances are – you won’t. 

• Make a plan for the path you need to follow to accomplish the goal. Create action steps to follow. Identify a critical path. The critical path defines the key accomplishments along the way, the most important steps that must happen for the goal to become a reality. Stephen Covey said, "All things are created twice. There's a mental or first creation, and a physical or second creation of all things. You have to make sure that the blueprint, the first creation, is really what you want, that you've thought everything through. Then you put it into bricks and mortar. Each day you go to the construction shed and pull out the blueprint to get marching orders for the day. You begin with the end in mind." He's right. 

• Commit to achieving the goal by writing down the goal. Lee Iacocca said, "The discipline of writing something down is the first step toward making it happen." I agree completely. Write down the plan, the action steps and the critical path. Somehow, writing down the goal, the plan and a timeline sets events in motion that may not have happened otherwise. In my own life, it is as if I am making a deeper commitment to goal accomplishment. I can’t fool myself later. The written objective really was the goal. 

• Establish times for checking your progress in your calendar system, whatever it is: a day planner, a PDA, a PDA phone or a hand written list. If you’re not making progress or feel stymied, don't let your optimism keep you from accomplishing your goals. No matter how positively you are thinking, you need to assess your lack of progress. Adopt a pessimist’s viewpoint; something will and probably is, going to go wrong. Take a look at all of the factors that are keeping you from accomplishing your goal and develop a plan to overcome them. Add these plan steps to your calendar system as part of your goal achievement plan. 

• Review your overall progress regularly. Make sure you are making progress. If you are not making progress, hire a coach, tap into the support of loved ones, analyze why the goal is not being met. Don’t allow the goal to just fade away. Figure out what you need to do to accomplish it. Check the prior five steps starting with an assessment of how deeply you actually want to achieve the goal. 

This six step goal setting and achieving system seems simple, but it is the most powerful system you will ever find for achieving your goals and living your dream. You just need to do it. 

Remember, the sky will always be your stepping stone when you begin with the end in mind in running with your goals with all sincerity. 

 Cheers. 

Your Mind Power

Success is simply a matter of doing it in the right way. Attempt to do it the wrong way and of course it will certainly fail.

Note: ‘it ain’t what you don’t know that’ll hurt you, it’s what you do know for sure that just ain’t so.’

Thus, an undeniable trait of success is persistence. Once you figure out what you desire, you then design it from your inside that is your mind!

As adults we are programmed with doubt on a daily and hourly basis… This is why greater success relies wholly on the removal of doubt. Remember, no amount of positive thinking will overcome/ overrule the tiniest fraction of a doubt.

Here’s something to consider that will demonstrate the power of your mind in achieving tremendous success…

There was a test carried out on Basket ball players and they separated them into three groups…

GROUP 1 – practised the free throw for 6 weeks to get it better

GROUP 2 - did nothing at all for 6 weeks

GROUP 3 - practised making the throw without the ball…

They had to do it in their mind… They didn’t have reality getting in the way so every shot was perfect!

After 6 weeks they tested them all…

Which group do you think won?

You knew that instinctively didn’t you?

Group three was the clear winner, because every athlete is taught to visualise before taking shots… Well those guys did it for 6 weeks without a ball.

So now and today I suggest you consider why you think then that you try and do things without making it happen perfectly in your mind first until it is certain.

When you learn to slow down, and make something you desire a reality that has happened in your mind before doing anything about it… Then you too will be able to utilise the power of UNTIL to fulfil your dreams and desires too.

Life change happens in a single moment… But you have to be present when that moment shows up… Luck is available to us all, but more of it is available to those who are prepared to grab it when it passes.

Note: You achieving what you desire from life is simply putting things together in the right way. Learn to structure your thinking and your success becomes inevitable.

Cheers.

Achieving Your Goals

Today, I want to share with you how to use mantras to achieve your goals (Remember, Goal is an observable and measurable end result having one or more objectives to be achieved within a more or less fixed time frame).

However, a mantra is a sound, syllable, word or group of words that is considered capable of creating transformation. A mantra could also be a driving fuel to help you achieve a goal. A mantra could be physical, mental or even spiritual. Most personal mantras consist of repeating your goal and what you want to do over and over again.

So, how do you use mantras to achieve your goals? 

Here are a few steps how.

1. List your goals.
You need to clarify your goals. What is it that you want to achieve? You have to be specific about what you want to achieve and attach a specific time to each of your goal. Could it be getting married by the age of 20, or riding your own car by the age of 25 or achieving your first million dollar by the age of 30, or is it you want to own your first property five years after you start working.

Note: You must have a written down goal before clarity. By the way, if you don't have any written goal, it's not too late to develop one. Just look inward and write down those things that comes to you naturally and you have glare to build on.

2. Write down the reason for wanting to achieve that goal.
Why do you want to ride your own vehicle by age 25 or become a millionaire by the age of 30? Do you want to achieve a sense of financial security? You need to discover the purpose that will help drive you in achieving your desired goal. This purpose will be your motivation to work harder towards achieving your goals.

3. Stick your list somewhere you can see them.
Put your list somewhere conspicuous. It could be at your mirror or your dressing table so that you will be able to see it everyday. Remember, seen it everyday will drive you towards achieving your goals.

4. Repeat your mantra now.
If an obstacle comes in your way, repeat your mantra. You want financial security? If you still need convincing, look back at that list that you have just written. You have written strong enough reasons to force you to get back up and start working again.

Make your whole life your own personal mantra. Remember to be persistent in upholding your mantra and great rewards are sure to follow.

Cheers.