... No Matter How much you love him, Here Are Few Things Your Man Should Never Make You Do.

Being in a relationship doesn’t mean that you have to give up the right to be an individual, with a mind of your own, so find out where the line has to be drawn and read these ten things no man should ever ask a girl to do:

1. Stop seeing your family:

Your family were around way before him and they could be around long after too.

Relationships with the in-laws can often be fraught, but he doesn’t have the right to tell you to stop seeing your family, or to make you choose between them and him.

2. Switch religions or beliefs:

If he can persuade you to modify your beliefs, through rational and logical debate, and you are comfortable with that, then that’s no problem. But, it should be your decision alone, no one else’s.

3. Have physical intimacy without protection:  

Unless you are really settled in a long term relationship, then physical intimacy without a ‘protection’ is an obvious no-no and a man should never ask you to do it.

Some guys do still have a hang up about using a safety hat, but, if he has that little respect for you, then it should be telling you something more about this man.

4. Forget your dreams:

Whether its finishing college, going to university, having kids or following a career, a man should never  ask to you give up your dreams for him.

You should be able to work together, so that you can both follow your dreams and share them together.

5. Have a baby before you are ready:

It’s your body and you will know when the time is right for you to have children.

Kids aren’t just accessories that go with a relationship, they are a huge, long term, commitment and both partners must be sure that they are ready for that.

6. Change who you are:

You are who you are, you should be proud of that, and he should love you for it too.

A man should not ask you to change who you are because, if you do, then it will only be pretence and you won’t be happy pretending to be someone else.

7. Stop seeing your friends:

You do need a life outside of a relationship and friends are an important part of that.

If he is trying to stop you from going out with your friends, then that’s a sign of his own insecurities or of his controlling nature and you shouldn’t be putting up with it.

8. Be more of a girl:

Yes, some guys do still think that girls should know their place! Well, don’t stand for it.

If you are not the pretty pink, candy floss, stay at home type, then don’t be.

Get out there and do the things that you want to do, even if he does think that they are not ‘girly’ enough pastimes.

9. Have an abortion:

Things happen and, if an unexpected pregnancy occurs, then the man must step up to the mark and take his responsibilities seriously.

He should never, under any circumstances, tell the woman to have an abortion. That is a very emotional decision that only the woman can make and then the man should be there to support her, whatever she decides.

10. Force you to stay when you really want to leave:

If you are really unhappy in a relationship, then you should end it. Don’t let a man force to you to stay, just because he doesn’t want it to end and, don’t let him make you stay through emotional blackmail either.

Cheers.

Handbook of Life

HANDBOOK OF LIFE...

Health:
1. Drink plenty of water.
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
3. Eat more plants and foods that grow on trees and eat less food that is manufactured.
4. Live with Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy
5. Make time to pray.
6. Play more.
7. Read more.
8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day
9. Sleep for 7 hours.
10. Take a 10-30 minute walk daily and smile while you walk.

Personality:
11. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
12. Don't have negative thoughts or judgments. Instead invest your energy in seeing the positive present moment.
13. Let go of things you cannot change.
14. Try new things. Don't overdo. Accept your limits.
15. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
16. Don't waste your energy on gossip.
17. Dream more
18. Envy is a waste of time. Be grateful for all that you have.
19. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
20. Don’t hate others. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
21. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
22. Remember that you are the only one in charge of your happiness.
23. Realize that life is a school filled with teachers and you are here to learn its many lessons. Problems you experience are simply part of the curriculum. The lessons will repeat until you learn them but once learned, they will last a lifetime.
24. Smile and laugh more.
25. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

Society:
26. Call your family often.
27. Give something good to others every day.
28. Forgive everyone for everything
29. Spend time with people over the age of 70 and under the age of 6.
30. Listen to people with all of your attention. Be present 100%
31. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
32. What other people think of you is none of your business.
33. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Keep in touch with your friends more often.

Life:
34. Do the right thing!
35. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
36. Time heals all wounds.
37. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
38. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
39. Do your best.
40. Life is a gift. Express gratitude and be thankful.
41. Be happy .

Cheers.

Nigeria @ 55

Today's is Nigeria "Independence Day". My suggestion is to make today your own independence day. What will you NO LONGER be dependent on? A dead end job, overreaction, laziness, over eating, flimsy excuses, bad habits of any form??? Pick your fight and declare TODAY as your Independence Day.

Remember, the fate of a nation depends on moral resolve of its leaders and indeed its people. Let us play our role as a good citizen of this nation to leave a footprint that will stand the test of time. Nigeria will be great but it begins with YOU...

Happy Birthday Nigeria.

 

How Well Do You Handle Your Mistakes...

Mistake is refers to a wrong action, belief, or judgment; it may also suggest an incorrect understanding, perception, or interpretation.

Here are three tips on how best to handle a mistake:

1. See the mistake as a step on the road to a solution. 

Don't let mistakes depress or discourage you. We must realize that depression and discouragement are negatives that limit the future. 

2. Admit the mistake. 

I'll admit that takes courage, but recognition of errors is a sign of maturity. Not to recognize them is to deny them. The reality is that "denial" is more than just a river in Egypt—it's something that will limit your future. 

3. Know that it’s only when you ignore the mistake that it is negative. 

When we confront mistakes, we are taking full advantage of it as the "positive" they are. 

Note:- Out of mistakes come major accomplishments—because mistakes are often the springboard for success. - 

Cheers

Connection

Connection - The process of connecting with others opens up the doors to many good things. Yes, connection with the wrong people won't help you. Be wise in who you connect with but the majority of connections you make in life are going to be with good people. When you connect with others well you are energised and excited too.

Thus, connecting well with others not only add value to them but it also adds value to you. So, what ever you do each and every day find time to connect with them. I am sure they will remember you as you leave your mark, a legacy as their acquaintance or even their friend. 

 So, let's get out there and connect thereby adding value to those around us! How will you do that today? How will I do that. The field of opportunities abound! 

Remember, Connection is so much more than an 

email or a voicemail. It is hard to feel the warmth of an email. 

 Cheers.  

Your Passion

Your passion...

It will make you a better you

It will raise your level of consciousness

It will make life easier for you.

Cheers.

Reasons You Don’t Have A Stable Man Yet...

1. You’re not loving and affectionate. Sometimes women go through so many bad relationships, that by the time they meet a man that could be good for them, they are unaffectionate and distant. Don’t let your past bad relationships stop you from being a friendly, warm, affectionate and loving woman. It’s okay to tell a man how you feel about him. Don’t hold back.

2. You’re picky. In this day and age, women make good money and have higher expectations of men. Some women are looking for something specific, like a man that makes a six-figure salary, is 6’7″ tall and has brown chestnut skin. There is nothing wrong with knowing what you want. But does he really have to be 6’7″? No, he doesn’t. Give a shorter man a chance.

3. You can’t make a good pitcher of Kool-Aid (Joking)… Cooking is very important. If you find yourself with a good man, you should take it upon yourself to cook a good meal for him. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy, just something to let him know that he will be well fed if he chooses to be with you.

4. You’re the home girl. You’re quick to roll one up, go do errands, curse and you have countless “home boys” that come over on the low low. This is a bad sign. You’re the home girl that the fellas can call to come through, smoke one with, rent a cheap motel room, have get some action with, feed you some food and send you home. How does that make you feel? Not too good about yourself. This is a clear sign that you’re doing things wrong. It’s great to be useful, but not so useful that you’re being used.

5. You’re loud, obnoxious and ghetto. These reasons are so obvious. At a certain point in a woman’s life, she should be able to analyze the things she is doing wrong. You shouldn’t have to look around and see all of your friends are getting married or in relationships while you’re still dating this guy. Be feminine, lower your voice and be a woman. Your girls may laugh at your antics, but who’s going home alone at the end of the day?

In conclusion, GirlsAffair is admonished as many that will read through this clip not to take it personal but ponder on it and make necessary amendment cum corrections. Remember, I love and appreciate you all.

Cheers.

Wonderful Ways to Use Your Words

A word fitly spoken and in due season is like apples of gold in settings of silver.—Proverbs 25:11

Words matter.

They can build up or tear down. They can impart wisdom or bring shame. They can deliver encouragement or deflate the spirit. Words can be a weapon or a healing balm. A welcome sound or a dreaded racket. And words can even change the world. Who knows just how many pivotal points in history would have been changed if someone had used their words differently.

Five Powerful Phrases to Speak to Your Spouse

I trust your judgment.
I’m glad I married you.
Here is what I appreciate most about you...
I am with you.
Being your wife has taught me...

Five Powerful Phrases to Speak to Your Child

You can do it.
A happy memory I have of when you were younger is...
I am confident you can make good choices.
Being your mom has taught me...
God has an amazing life planned for you.

Five Powerful Phrases to Speak to Your Parent

I’m not sure if I’ve ever told you before, but thank you for...
A wonderful memory I have of my childhood is...
I admire your strength.
How can I help you?
I am proud of you for...

Five Powerful Phrases to Speak to Your Friend

My favourite thing about our friendship is...
The best time I ever had with you was when...
I am with you all the way.
The character quality I most admire in you is...
You remind me of Jesus when you...

Your Turn...

Do you sometimes feel like you have very little influence in the lives around you?

What are you talking about?!

Your words, your speech, the way you talk — you have tremendous power!

And your life-giving words are needed by the people around you — family, friends, neighbors, pastors, co-workers, bosses, and every person you interact within your normal daily routine.

Who needs your encouraging words today?

Your words are sure to bless your recipient!

Cheers. 

You Can Find Happiness...

I  couldn't resist sharing this beautiful story 😊

This story is about a beautiful, expensively dressed lady who complained to her psychiatrist that she felt that her whole life was empty, it had no meaning.

So, the lady went to visit a counselor to seek out happiness.

The counselor called over the old lady who cleans the office floors.

The counselor then said to the rich lady "I'm going to ask Mary here to tell you how she found happiness. All I want you to do is listen to her."

So the old lady put down her broom and sat on a chair and told her story:

"Well, my husband died of malaria and three months later my only son was killed by a car. I had nobody. I had nothing left. I couldn't sleep, I couldn't eat, I never smiled at anyone, I even thought of taking my own life. 

Then, one evening a little cat followed me home from work. Somehow I felt sorry for that cat. It was cold outside, so I decided to let the cat in. I got some milk, and the cat licked the plate clean. Then it purred and rubbed against my leg and, for the first time in months, I smiled.

Then I stopped to think, if helping a little cat could make me smile, may be doing something for people could make me happy.

So, the next day I baked some biscuits and took them to a neighbor who was sick in bed.

Every day I tried to do something nice for someone. It made me so happy to see them happy.

Today, I don't know of anybody who sleeps and eats better than I do.

I've found happiness, by giving it to others."

When she heard this, the rich lady cried. She had everything that money could buy, but she had lost the things which money cannot buy.

"The beauty of life does not depend on how happy you are; but on how happy others can be because of you..."

Happiness is not a destination, it's a journey. 

Happiness is not tomorrow, it is now. 

Happiness is not dependency, it is a decision. 

Happiness is what you are, not what you have..😊 

I appreciate you.

Cheers. 

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All Because of You

Because of You...

I was self sufficient,

gratified by my independence,

alone, but not lonely,

I thought.

But I was restless,

searching blindly for something

to fill an empty place.

I didn't even know I had,

dimly aware that I was somehow unfinished.

Then you came,

and filled everything,

every space, every need,

even secret dreams

I had concealed from myself.

I was self sufficient, and restless;

Now, I am profoundly peaceful

and complete, because of you.

Much thoughts...