Live in the Moment...

So much of what we do in life is focused on the future (future jobs, future vacations, future children, future money and fame), but how much time do we actually spend just enjoying the current moment?

I know this tip might come off as a little cliché, but it actually pays off if you implement it. 

 When you learn to live in the moment you learn how to better connect with the people you’re close with, 

and you also learn what it means to be alive. 

After all, the purpose of life is to live it!

Cheers.

Marriage Software

I laughed after reading this, think I should share
A little humour
Marriage Software
This is what a guy wrote to a Systems Analyst -
(Marriage Software Div);

Dear Systems Analyst,
I am desperate for some help! I recently upgraded my program from Girlfriend 7.0 to Wife 1.0 and found that the new program began unexpected Child Processing and also took up a lot of space and valuable resources.
This wasn't mentioned in the product brochure. In addition Wife 1.0 installs itself into all other programs and launches during systems initialization and then it monitors all other system activities.
Applications such as "Boys' Night out 2.5" and "Golf 5.3" no longer run, and crashes the system whenever selected. Attempting to operate selected "Soccer 6.3" always fails and "Shopping 7.1" runs instead. I cannot seem to keep Wife 1.0 in the background whilst attempting to run any of my favorite applications. Be it online or offline.
I am thinking of going back to "Girlfriend 7.0", but uninstall doesn't work on this program. Can you please help?

.... The Systems Analyst replied:

Dear Customer,
This is a very common problem resulting from a basic misunderstanding of the functions of the Wife 1.0 program. Many customers upgrade from Girlfriend 7.0 to Wife 1.0 thinking that Wife 1.0 is merely a UTILITY AND ENTERTAINMENT PROGRAM. Actually, Wife 1.0 is an OPERATING SYSTEM designed by its Creator to run everything on your current platform.
You are unlikely to be able to purge Wife 1.0 and still convert back to Girlfriend 7.0, as Wife 1.0 was not designed to do this and it is impossible to uninstall, delete or purge the program files from the System once it is installed.
Some people have tried to install Girlfriend 8.0 or Wife 2.0 but have ended up with even more problems. (See manual under Alimony/Child Support and Solicitors' Fees).
Having Wife 1.0 installed, I recommend you keep it Installed and deal with the difficulties as best as you can. When any faults or problems occur, whatever you think has caused them, you must run the.........
C:\ APOLOGIZE\ FORGIVE ME.EXE Program and avoid attempting to use the *Esc-Key for it will freeze the entire system.
It may be necessary to run C:\ APOLOGIZE\ FORGIVE ME.EXE a number of times, and eventually hope that the operating system will return to normal.
Wife 1.0, although a very high maintenance programme, can be very rewarding.
To get the most out of it, consider buying additional Software such as "Flowers 2.0" and "Chocolates 5.0" or "HUGS\ KISSES 600.0" or "TENDERNESS\ UNDERSTANDING 1000.0" or even Eating Out Without the Kids 7.2.1" (if Child processing has already started).
DO NOT under any circumstances install "Secretary 2.1" (Short Skirt Version) or "One Nightstand 3.2" (Any Mood Version), as this is not a supported Application for Wife 1.0 and the system will almost certainly CRASH.

BEST WISHES!
Yours,
Systems Analyst

Let's be...

Dearest,

Let's be thankful for all we have and even hope to have or better still

Be thankful for what you have

Be creative

Be innovative

Always think differently and positive

If life gives you a 100 reasons to cry, tell yourself you have a 1000 reasons to smile and shout.

Face your past without an iota of regret(s)

Handle your present with confidence

Prepare for the future without fear (very important).

Keep the faith and drop the fear (even in the face of life adversaries).

It's a beautiful thing to see someone smile,

But even more beautiful if you are the reason for the smile.

Faith is not about everything turning out OK but faith is about being OK no matter how things turn out.

Have a great day.

Cheers.

Times When Being Single Is Not So Good

Being single can be a lot of fun, especially if you make enough money to take care of your own bills and even have some fun money left over. You don’t need to check in with anyone and there’s no one to have to pick up after. There are lots of reasons being single can be a good thing. But there are also times when being single, well, sucks.

• When you visit your grandma or mother. She wants to know when you are going to settle down, and most importantly, when you are going to give her grandbabies. It really sucks...

• When you are sick. There’s no one to bring you pepper soup, cuddle you up and make you laugh, bring you a glass of juice, get your prescription or bring you a box of tissue. It’s awful.

• When you see a couple having a super time. It especially hits home when you see an elderly couple walking hand in hand at the park. If you’re in your 30s already, it makes you wonder if you are ever going to find someone to grow old with.

• When you accomplish something. Sure it’s great to call mom and pops or your siblings. But it sure would be nice to have a guy to share it with. It’s just not the same – the affection from family and friends can’t compare to that big kiss and warm hug from your man.

• When things need fixing or moving. It’s great to have a man around when the DVD player needs to be hooked up or your car is making a gurgling noise. And when you feel like rearranging your place, a man and his friends sure would come in handy.

Meanwhile, enjoy the single life and stay away from Grandma’s house (laugh! Because it's not possible) and hope the sink will unclog itself when you pour hair spray down it! Remember, your waiting period should be used to bless people around you, let your impact be felt optimally and someday you will be amazed on the footprint you've left in various life.

Cheers. 

... No Matter How much you love him, Here Are Few Things Your Man Should Never Make You Do.

Being in a relationship doesn’t mean that you have to give up the right to be an individual, with a mind of your own, so find out where the line has to be drawn and read these ten things no man should ever ask a girl to do:

1. Stop seeing your family:

Your family were around way before him and they could be around long after too.

Relationships with the in-laws can often be fraught, but he doesn’t have the right to tell you to stop seeing your family, or to make you choose between them and him.

2. Switch religions or beliefs:

If he can persuade you to modify your beliefs, through rational and logical debate, and you are comfortable with that, then that’s no problem. But, it should be your decision alone, no one else’s.

3. Have physical intimacy without protection:  

Unless you are really settled in a long term relationship, then physical intimacy without a ‘protection’ is an obvious no-no and a man should never ask you to do it.

Some guys do still have a hang up about using a safety hat, but, if he has that little respect for you, then it should be telling you something more about this man.

4. Forget your dreams:

Whether its finishing college, going to university, having kids or following a career, a man should never  ask to you give up your dreams for him.

You should be able to work together, so that you can both follow your dreams and share them together.

5. Have a baby before you are ready:

It’s your body and you will know when the time is right for you to have children.

Kids aren’t just accessories that go with a relationship, they are a huge, long term, commitment and both partners must be sure that they are ready for that.

6. Change who you are:

You are who you are, you should be proud of that, and he should love you for it too.

A man should not ask you to change who you are because, if you do, then it will only be pretence and you won’t be happy pretending to be someone else.

7. Stop seeing your friends:

You do need a life outside of a relationship and friends are an important part of that.

If he is trying to stop you from going out with your friends, then that’s a sign of his own insecurities or of his controlling nature and you shouldn’t be putting up with it.

8. Be more of a girl:

Yes, some guys do still think that girls should know their place! Well, don’t stand for it.

If you are not the pretty pink, candy floss, stay at home type, then don’t be.

Get out there and do the things that you want to do, even if he does think that they are not ‘girly’ enough pastimes.

9. Have an abortion:

Things happen and, if an unexpected pregnancy occurs, then the man must step up to the mark and take his responsibilities seriously.

He should never, under any circumstances, tell the woman to have an abortion. That is a very emotional decision that only the woman can make and then the man should be there to support her, whatever she decides.

10. Force you to stay when you really want to leave:

If you are really unhappy in a relationship, then you should end it. Don’t let a man force to you to stay, just because he doesn’t want it to end and, don’t let him make you stay through emotional blackmail either.

Cheers.

Handbook of Life

HANDBOOK OF LIFE...

Health:
1. Drink plenty of water.
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
3. Eat more plants and foods that grow on trees and eat less food that is manufactured.
4. Live with Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy
5. Make time to pray.
6. Play more.
7. Read more.
8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day
9. Sleep for 7 hours.
10. Take a 10-30 minute walk daily and smile while you walk.

Personality:
11. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
12. Don't have negative thoughts or judgments. Instead invest your energy in seeing the positive present moment.
13. Let go of things you cannot change.
14. Try new things. Don't overdo. Accept your limits.
15. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
16. Don't waste your energy on gossip.
17. Dream more
18. Envy is a waste of time. Be grateful for all that you have.
19. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
20. Don’t hate others. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
21. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
22. Remember that you are the only one in charge of your happiness.
23. Realize that life is a school filled with teachers and you are here to learn its many lessons. Problems you experience are simply part of the curriculum. The lessons will repeat until you learn them but once learned, they will last a lifetime.
24. Smile and laugh more.
25. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

Society:
26. Call your family often.
27. Give something good to others every day.
28. Forgive everyone for everything
29. Spend time with people over the age of 70 and under the age of 6.
30. Listen to people with all of your attention. Be present 100%
31. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
32. What other people think of you is none of your business.
33. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Keep in touch with your friends more often.

Life:
34. Do the right thing!
35. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
36. Time heals all wounds.
37. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
38. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
39. Do your best.
40. Life is a gift. Express gratitude and be thankful.
41. Be happy .

Cheers.

Nigeria @ 55

Today's is Nigeria "Independence Day". My suggestion is to make today your own independence day. What will you NO LONGER be dependent on? A dead end job, overreaction, laziness, over eating, flimsy excuses, bad habits of any form??? Pick your fight and declare TODAY as your Independence Day.

Remember, the fate of a nation depends on moral resolve of its leaders and indeed its people. Let us play our role as a good citizen of this nation to leave a footprint that will stand the test of time. Nigeria will be great but it begins with YOU...

Happy Birthday Nigeria.

 

How Well Do You Handle Your Mistakes...

Mistake is refers to a wrong action, belief, or judgment; it may also suggest an incorrect understanding, perception, or interpretation.

Here are three tips on how best to handle a mistake:

1. See the mistake as a step on the road to a solution. 

Don't let mistakes depress or discourage you. We must realize that depression and discouragement are negatives that limit the future. 

2. Admit the mistake. 

I'll admit that takes courage, but recognition of errors is a sign of maturity. Not to recognize them is to deny them. The reality is that "denial" is more than just a river in Egypt—it's something that will limit your future. 

3. Know that it’s only when you ignore the mistake that it is negative. 

When we confront mistakes, we are taking full advantage of it as the "positive" they are. 

Note:- Out of mistakes come major accomplishments—because mistakes are often the springboard for success. - 

Cheers

Connection

Connection - The process of connecting with others opens up the doors to many good things. Yes, connection with the wrong people won't help you. Be wise in who you connect with but the majority of connections you make in life are going to be with good people. When you connect with others well you are energised and excited too.

Thus, connecting well with others not only add value to them but it also adds value to you. So, what ever you do each and every day find time to connect with them. I am sure they will remember you as you leave your mark, a legacy as their acquaintance or even their friend. 

 So, let's get out there and connect thereby adding value to those around us! How will you do that today? How will I do that. The field of opportunities abound! 

Remember, Connection is so much more than an 

email or a voicemail. It is hard to feel the warmth of an email. 

 Cheers.  

Your Passion

Your passion...

It will make you a better you

It will raise your level of consciousness

It will make life easier for you.

Cheers.