Vital Secrets To Every Successful Relationship

 Relationships these days are fast-track owing, its nature to the changing lifestyle trends and the busyness of every individual. Couples who are deeply in love with each other, cannot be at their best always as that would really be a hypothetical scenario. The best couples are not the ones who do not have any differences among themselves but indeed, those who have the best understanding of their differences and respect each other’s opinions and actions. Keeping in view these thoughts, attaining and maintaining healthy a relationship is a challenge posed to every couple who seeks a lasting relationship.   

All relationship successes revolve around the idea of maintaining a healthy relationship even though the feelings which contribute to it are different, but the ultimate goal continues to be the same. No matter how good things are with our individual partners, we always aim to be at our best when it comes to attaining our relationship goals. 

Always being there for your partner in times of hardship and happiness is what makes a relationship work and eventually strengthening the bond of love and affection between them. 

 After observing how successful and happy couples pull off a strong and long lasting relationship, here are the 7 keys that we found to be the most significant. 

 Trust 

Trust is the basic foundation of any healthy relationship and hence building a highly trustworthy bond is a primary relationship goal. It takes years to build up trust for each other but only a few seconds to break it and may be an eternity to repair. This is the feeling which develops the emotions of maximum security and safety in a relationship. 90% of couples who first begin a relationship with their partner is observed to fully trust and rely their partner at the get go, and expects their partner to reciprocated with complete honesty. This is the building block and foundation for any strong relationships. So think before you decide to break your partners’ trust, because a full and complete trust will be hard to come by once broken.

 Care 

When we truly love and care for someone, our psychological system automatically gets linked to our partner through a powerful brain and emotional connection. When one gets hurt or happy, the other too feels the pinch or joy of the other. Personality soon become inter-connected with one another. The sole attachment for their emotions thus becomes the partner’s response, feelings and reciprocation to their actions by default. Showing your partner that you care helps build a strong base of emotional support and encouragement to pull through the lows of every relationship.

 Transparent 

It is true that when we fall in love with someone and starts a relationship, we expect them to be totally transparent and frequently communicate any resentment or feelings from within. One problem with most women is the expectation for their partners to know what they want without telling, just because they assume their partner knows them well enough to read the silence and unsaid thoughts between them. Men on the other hand, expects verbal communication at every step. They expect their partner to express their views as they do not consider themselves to be “mind readers” and requires communication at every point. Keeping things transparent between each other, talking your inner frustrations out instead of keeping them all within and making assumptions may be the cause of the frequent quarrels in your relationship.

 Let Little Things Go

 Relationships are all about compromise and adjustments. Nobody can be completely perfect and thus the beauty of every relationship lies in accepting your partner as he/she is rather than trying to change them. This will eventually cause lesser arguments and develop a good understanding over a period of time. 

Listen  

By listening to your partner you are showing a sense of respect and devotion to your partner. Making eye contact with your partner, avoiding distractions like cell phones and allowing them to talk uninterruptedly are few ways of showing good listening skills and building that comfort towards your partner. 

Express gratitude 

Be thankful to your partner for the every little thing he or she does for you. Appreciate and notice the little gestures that they do for you, and praise them whenever you notice these acts. Learn to focus on the positives and good that your partner bring and eliminate the negatives thoughts that you have toward them.  Sometimes we as human, tend to only focus on the 1 bad point, without realising the other 99 other good points of a person. 

 Respect Each Other If your partner is willing and really enthusiastic to do something or wishes to follow his or her passion, you should be highly supportive and encouraging towards them. This will give them a feeling of trust and openness towards you and will even cause them fall deeper in love with you.   

Inculcating these simple yet effective tips  into your relationship with the help of this highly recommended tool for women or this highly recommended tool for men will help you attain your desired relationship goals and have a successful relationship in the long run! 

 Be inspired. 

GirlsAffair: Tough Decision - No Right nor Wrong Answer

GirlsAffair: Tough Decision - No Right nor Wrong Answer: Hi Dearie,  Have you ever lost sleep over a decision you have to  make before?  Spending hours lying awake, staring at the cei...

Tough Decision - No Right nor Wrong Answer



Hi Dearie, 

Have you ever lost sleep over a decision you have to 
make before? 
Spending hours lying awake, staring at the ceiling, watching hours tick by while the world around you is 
sound asleep? 

Well, I have. 

I struggled with making choices too. 
I remembered vividly the couple of years leading up 
to my decision to leave a monthly paid job. 
It was the toughest decision of my life. I hesitated. I delayed. I struggled. 

Looking back today, I was certain that my choice was 
a good one. 
I had many years of a fulfilling second career. I became relatively well paid too through the years, which I would not have thought of while I was younger. 

Do I know for sure, what will come my way then as I do now? 

No. 
It was just a choice that I have to make.  

A lot of the decision making we do in our lives centred around this: is it a right or wrong answer? 
In school, we were conditioned to expect a reward for a right answer and punishment for a wrong one. 
When we grow up, we begin to think of the world in two polars. There must be a right or a wrong choice. 

However, this is life. No one is ever born with the experience to live it out and live it well. 
Fate plays a part in the paths we take, the people we 
meet and the spouse we marry. 
No one could ever predict if it is a right answer or a wrong one.  Whichever path we choose, there are advantages and disadvantages.
No one solution is perfect, just only the best fit for our requirements. Each choice takes us on a different experience. 

The most liberating thing that frees my mind and one that I remind myself and all that come on my way often is that there is no right or wrong answer. 

Just make a choice and move on. 

I hope it solves your sleepless nights. 
Let me know how it goes. 

Be inspired. 

GirlsAffair: My dreams are coming true

GirlsAffair: My dreams are coming true:   Each day, I see that I am closer to my dreams. I expect them to come true because I have total confidence that I can make them h...

GirlsAffair: My dreams are coming true

GirlsAffair: My dreams are coming true:   Each day, I see that I am closer to my dreams. I expect them to come true because I have total confidence that I can make them h...

My dreams are coming true

 


Each day, I see that I am closer to my dreams. I expect them to come true because I have total confidence that I can make them happen.

When I believe in myself and my abilities, I radiate that out to the universe. I get back good vibes and good feelings from the universe because I am giving out joy and confidence.

I hold fast to the promises I make to myself. When I believe in myself, I see good things happen in my life. As a result, all of my dreams are coming true. Because I believe in me, other people believe in me, too. I have positive energy.

By remaining positive, I offer the universe my love and respect. Positive energy attracts positive energy, so I help my dreams come true by continuing to believe in them. I refuse to give up on my dreams because they matter to me.

I care about my dreams and see them come true. I visualize how they can come true and what I can do to ensure they happen. If I have to adjust my timetable or the extent of my dreams, I am flexible enough to do so.

Because I can be flexible, my dreams come true more easily. I go with the flow, and I am confident that allowing the universe to guide me can help make my dreams a reality much more easily.

Today, I reflect on the fact that I am moving ever closer to seeing my dreams become my reality and rejoice in it.

It's All About You.


It’s so easy to get caught up with pleasing everyone else in life…

But sometimes if you put all of your energy outwards, you forget to care, appreciate and nurture the most important person of all - YOU!

Below are 7 beautiful quotes to inspire you to put yourself first. Enjoy :)

1. “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”? – Buddha

2. “Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it.”?– M. Scott Peck

3.“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”? – Lucille Ball

4. “Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one.”? – Eleanor Roosevelt

5. “What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”? – Ralph Waldo Emerson

6. “When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life.”? – Jean Shinoda Bolen

7. “Our self-respect tracks our choices. Every time we act in harmony with our authentic self and our heart, we earn our respect. It is that simple. Every choice matters.” ?– Dan Coppersmith

Be inspired, 
To appreciating YOURSELF.

Be Upright Always


Food for Thought:

A successful business man was growing old and knew it was time to choose a successor to take over the business.
Instead of choosing one of his Directors or his children, he decided to do something different.

He called all the young executives in his company together. He said, “It is time for me to step down and choose the next CEO. I have decided to choose one of you.”

The young executives were shocked, but the boss continued. “I am going to give each one of you a SEED today – one very special SEED. I want you to plant the seed, water it, and come back here one year from today with what you have grown from the seed I have given you. I will then judge the plants that you bring, and the one I choose will be the next CEO.”

One man, named Jim, was there that day and he, like the others, received a seed. He went home and excitedly, told his wife the story. She helped him get a pot, soil and compost and he planted the seed.

Everyday, he would water it and watch to see if it had grown. After about three weeks, some of the other executives began to talk about their seeds and the plants that were beginning to grow.
Jim kept checking his seed, but nothing ever grew. Three weeks, four weeks, five weeks went by, still nothing. By now, others were talking about their plants, but Jim didn’t have a plant and he felt like a failure.

Six months went by — still nothing in Jim’s pot. He just knew he had killed his seed. Everyone else had trees and tall plants, but he had nothing. Jim didn’t say anything to his colleagues, however he just kept watering and fertilizing the soil – He so wanted the seed to grow.

A year finally went by and all the young executives of the company brought their plants to the CEO for inspection.
Jim told his wife that he wasn’t going to take an empty pot. But she asked him to be honest about what happened. Jim felt sick to his stomach, it was going to be the most embarrassing moment of his life, but he knew his wife was right.
He took his empty pot to the board room. When Jim arrived, he was amazed at the variety of plants grown by the other executives. They were beautiful — in all shapes and sizes.
Jim put his empty pot on the floor and many of his colleagues laughed, a few felt sorry for him!

When the CEO arrived, he surveyed the room and greeted his young executives.
Jim just tried to hide in the back. “My, what great plants, trees, and flowers you have grown,” said the CEO. “Today one of you will be appointed the next CEO!”

All of a sudden, the CEO spotted Jim at the back of the room with his empty pot. He ordered the Financial Director to bring him to the front. Jim was terrified. He thought, “The CEO knows I’m a failure! Maybe he will have me fired!”
When Jim got to the front, the CEO asked him what had happened to his seed – Jim told him the story.

The CEO asked everyone to sit down except Jim.
He looked at Jim, and then announced to the young executives, “Behold your next Chief Executive Officer! His name is Jim!”
Jim couldn’t believe it. Jim couldn’t even grow his seed.
“How could he be the new CEO?” the others said.
Then the CEO said, “One year ago today, I gave everyone in this room a seed. I told you to take the seed, plant it, water it, and bring it back to me today. But I gave you all boiled seeds; they were dead – it was not possible for them to grow.

All of you, except Jim, have brought me trees and plants and flowers. When you found that the seed would not grow, you substituted another seed for the one I gave you. Jim was the only one with the courage and honesty to bring me a pot with my seed in it. Therefore, he is the one who will be the new Chief Executive Officer!”

* If you plant honesty, you will reap trust.
* If you plant goodness, you will reap friends.
* If you plant humility, you will reap greatness.
* If you plant perseverance, you will reap contentment.
* If you plant consideration, you will reap perspective.
* If you plant hard work, you will reap success.
* If you plant forgiveness, you will reap reconciliation.
* If you plant faith in God , you will reap a harvest.

So, be careful what you plant now; it will determine what you will reap later..
“Whatever You Give To Life, Life Gives You Back".

Be inspired.

Dream Big.


Dream of your goals, Believe in your abilities to bring your dreams to fulfilment, Take possible and necessary actions in the fulfilment of your set goals/dreams, Keep pressing, pushing, working, and not relenting...

Remember your Creator has fused in you ALL it takes to achieve your goals and dreams.

So never give up.

Stay stylish *KISS*

Be Rest Assured


Life may be downtrodden at times; everyone may seem not to understand your plight; things around you may look dim and ugly.

But be rest assured that there is ONE who makes all beautiful in His time.

He is the best being that can understand your plight and turn your situation around for His glory.

He is just one person, The Holy Trinity.

Unleashing Young Potential

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