Little Things That Matter

Nature in all its loveliness A beauty o behold Nature with all its pleasure and grace Enjoyed by just a few The blind with their sightless eyes Never to see the rising of the sun Nor the awe of its setting But to the ones who do see The beauty of it is ever lost on them For the deaf in their own quietude The bearing of the ocean waves Is a dream never come true But for those who can hear Itd nothing but the sound of rushing waters. For the mentally derailed In their own solitude The pleasure of life They'd really want to share For the mentally fit and mentally able Life is nothing but a weary experience They'd sooner leaver For the dead in their quite grave Their eternity is spent Making wishes Wishes never to come true Their wrongs never again to be put right Remains their constant agony All of lifes irony An adage comes to mind The importance of what one has Is never really known But it all comes to mind When all opportunity is lost Nature is therefore to be enjoyed to the fullest When one is able For there always come a time When inability sets in And one tends to remember Things best forgotten And one tends to reach out To grasp lifes cold reality Then and only then Will little things that matter All come to mind.

Women and Pain During Sexual Intercourse...

Sexual intercourse, or coitus or copulation, is mainly the insertion and thrusting of a male's penis, usually when erect, into a female's vagina for the purposes of sexual pleasure or reproduction; also known as vaginal intercourse or vaginal sex. Other forms of penetrative sexual intercourse include penetration of the anus by the penis (anal sex), penetration of the mouth by the penis or oral penetration of the vulva or vagina (oral sex), sexual penetration by the fingers (fingering), and sexual penetration by use of a strap-on dildo. These activities involve physical intimacy between two or more individuals and are usually used among humans solely for physical or emotional pleasure and commonly contribute to human bonding.

Sex is supposed to make couples feel good and relaxed —like toe-curling, spine-tingling, back-arching good. But recent research shows a whopping 30 percent of women are experiencing pain during the act. We will be looking at the possible cause(s) of pains attributed to sexual intercourse by women. 

There are quite a few reasons for women to have pain while having Sexual Intercourse.

For WOMEN that have pain - it could be the way their internal anatomy is. Their cervix or uterus could be tilted in such a way that the penis hits and makes it uncomfortable. That is with deep thrusting. Another common reason is simply that the woman is not aroused when intercourse is occurring and the vagina is not sufficiently enlarged or lubricated. This causes the movement of the penis to become more and more uncomfortable

Primary Causes of Vaginal Pain during Sexual Intercourse

One of the most common primary causes of vaginal pain during intercourse is a dry vagina. Usually, when a woman is sexually aroused, fluids are secreted in the vagina that keeps the lining well lubricated. But if a woman is not sexually aroused, or if fluids are not secreted for some other reason, intercourse can cause very painful damage to the vaginal lining. And in some cases, the lining of the vagina can actually tear, resulting in post-intercourse bleeding. Thus, it’s expedient of the other party involved during sexual intercourse to put this into cognisance. 

However, there are several ways to avoid a dry vagina during intercourse but I will be emphasizing on two different types. The first is to avoid intercourse until you are sexually aroused while the second way is to use an artificial water-based vaginal lubricant, such as K-Y jelly, Replens Vaginal Moisturizer, as a substitute or backup for natural lubricant. Since vaginal secretion is usually an indication of a woman's sexual interest, I usually recommend that intercourse wait until she experiences sexual arousal and natural lubrication. I want couples to avoid getting into the habit of sex that's passionless for her. But, if natural secretion is an unreliable indicator of your sexual arousal, I would certainly recommend an artificial lubricant. Thus, If you're not sure if a dry vagina is the cause of your pain, use an artificial lubricant once. If there is no pain under those conditions, then you have proof that it's the cause of your distress.

Another common cause of vaginal discomfort during intercourse is bacterial infection. This occurs frequently in women, and an antibiotic will generally cure the problem within a week or so. A related problem is bladder infections, while the problem may be in the bladder or urethra, not in the vagina; it often causes discomfort during intercourse. A visit to your doctor will identify and treat a bacterial infection so that you will have minimal interruption in your sexual fulfilment. But be sure to make the appointment as soon as intercourse is uncomfortable. Otherwise it can develop into a secondary cause of vaginal pain that I will explain later.

There are other diseases that can cause pain or discomfort during intercourse. Vaginal endometriosis is one of them. When your doctor examines you for possible bacterial infection, be sure to ask him or her about endometriosis, because it is often overlooked during an examination. Your doctor examination will also be able to check for any vaginal tumors or venereal diseases that may be causing your discomfort. These problems may take longer to treat than bacterial infections, but whatever the problem turns out to be, don't have intercourse until it has been overcome else you will be compounding the problem.

Moreover, if you have experienced vaginal bleeding after intercourse, your doctor should also be able to identify its source, and treat it for you. Sometimes a scratch or tear in the lining caused by something other than intercourse can be the cause of your problem. It is very important for you to be comfortable with regular pelvic examinations. Otherwise you may let a medical problem become so far advanced that it causes you permanent injury. If you are embarrassed to see a male doctor, find a female doctor. But whatever you do, don't let your inhibitions prevent you from experiencing painless intercourse.

Note: Until your doctor can identify the source of your vaginal discomfort, don't have intercourse.  Allow the problem to be diagnosed, treated and overcome to his or her satisfaction. Some problems can be treated in a week or less, while others, like endometriosis may take months to overcome.

If you are unable to have intercourse during treatment for a vaginal disease, that doesn't mean you'll be forcing your husband to rush off to have sex with someone else. I suggest that your husband be informed by your doctor of what it is you are going through, and how you will be treated. A major problem you may face is your husband's failure to see your sexual reluctance for what it is: vaginal pain brought on by a physical cause. If he doesn't believe you when you explain that it's the pain that makes you reluctant, his ignorance puts your sexual relationship, and probably your marriage, at risk. But once he understands the nature of the problem, and knows that it isn't an affair or some other emotional cause, he will be happier with alternatives to intercourse while you wait for your treatment to take effect.

In some cases, a husband's thoughtlessness is remembered long after the painful symptoms are gone. If your husband tries to force you to have painful intercourse with him and threatens you if you do not cooperate, your memories of his insensitivity will be a far greater barrier to your future sexual relationship than your disease ever could have been. Don't let him create those barriers to your future bonding together. Insist that there be no sex unless you enjoy the experience with him. It’s not only in your best interest, but in his best interest too. If you go ahead and try to make love when it’s painful to you, you may have a very difficult time making love to him in the future.

A Secondary Cause of Vaginal Pain during Sexual Intercourse

What you will probably be doing, if you eliminate the primary causes, and you still experience vaginal pain? What if your doctor finds no physical cause for your discomfort during intercourse? That can be very discouraging to most women, who begin to think that it's all in their heads. If the pain is not physically caused, then it must be psychological, right? Not necessarily.

In fact, most cases of persistent vaginal discomfort are not due to primary causes at all, but rather to a reflex called vaginismus. It's not psychological or emotional, it's very physical. Vaginismus is a painful reflex that is created in association with a primary cause of vaginal pain. In other words, if you experience vaginal pain from any one of the primary causes I've earlier mentioned, vaginismus can develop secondarily. Long after the primary cause is ended, the vaginismus can persist. This reflex responds to stimulation of the vaginal opening. If you suffer from vaginismus, you will notice it most when you first try to insert something into your vagina. The opening involuntarily contracts and pain is immediately felt. In extreme cases, the contraction is so tight that nothing can penetrate it.

From this description, you can see how it would interfere with intercourse. Regardless of how sexually aroused you might be, or how lubricated your vagina might be, as soon as you try to insert your husband's penis, you would experience excruciating pain. It may be difficult to insert his penis, because the vaginal opening becomes constricted. In some cases, it is impossible to insert a penis.

Traditional sexual intercourse regularly produces an orgasm for men but rarely does for women. This is because the location of the clitoris prevents most women from getting sensitive, appropriate and sustained stimulation when they make love. Full satisfaction for both partners is neither easy nor obvious; it doesn't "come naturally." Astonishingly, almost none of the literature on sex is helpful on this issue. Almost without exception, the "experts" have been asking the wrong questions and are stuck in an old paradigm of how sexual intercourse is supposed to work. As a result, few couples find the advice they need: Three approaches that allow both partners to get full satisfaction during lovemaking, including

1. Simultaneous orgasms, which the conventional wisdom has declared to be virtually impossible.
2. A breakthrough for couples in achieving mutual satisfaction and long-term sexual happiness.
3. Revolutionary ideas that liberate couples from conventional wisdom that doesn't work and helps them communicate about what does.

Note: GIRLS should not be having sex at all because she will have pain (severe). Thus, if you are a man having sex with a "girl" you should make a conscious effort to stop immediately.

6 STAGES OF A WOMAN'S LIFE

At what stage in a woman's life are you? Everybody knows that life is difficult but being a woman can actually be particularly complex. Let's unfold the complexity of every woman's stage and what she had to contend with in every stages of her growth.

Stage1: Growing Up.
This is the transition from childhood to adulthood. This usually begin from the age of 12, 13 & 14, but recent studies shows adulthood begin from age 8 & 10, due to technology advancement and the type of food consumption children eat this days which speed up their hormonal functions. Thus, the beginning of a woman's problems, breast filling/ protruding out, mestruation and pimples.


Next, of course is the inevitable. Once a girl starts growing up, she starts meeting boys which in turn start noticing her beauty plus the curves. As the girl grows into an adolescent she may at this point fall in love for the first time in her life. Now, is the confusion of who to like, what to do, what not to do plus the inevitable question of sex and virginity. Also, at this point in a girls life she might be secretive, moody nor very hostile to her parents most especially the mother, though this is not unexpected because to be honest the girl is still really trying to find nor discover herself by trying to differentiate between her mother's moral lessons, school morals, what she had read and discuss with her friends. Belief me, a tough time of decision making and lots of 'WH' questions on her head. But, this is the stage where mothers really need to perform their motherhood roles in helping the little damsel to discover who she really is and her place in the society.

Stage 3: Breaking Up
This is usually the most painful stage of all. This point in time is bittersweet because emotions and romance have been attached into friendship which usually results into breakups. Reason being that, at this stage the girl is mentally immature, it might be very painful but time heals everything.

Stage 4: Marriage
By this time, a lady is past 22 of age and the question of marriage pops up several times from the society, friends, and family may begin pressurizing. For some, marriage means the ultimate triumph in life but there are several other challenges at this point in life. Not only is there a question of whom to marry and when, there is the question of carrier, how to make money and societal acceptance. Also, if you are married, you are rewarded with the ardous task of balancing husband, careers, in- laws, house choices et cetera.

Stage 5: Having Children
This brings quite a sudden change in a woman's life. Now, there is more than one responsibility in your life. There is nine months pregnancy to carry, babies to nurse, mouths to feed to satisfaction, as well as husband to pamper and a home to manage. How to cope? Beings mother and a wife is 24 hours a day, 7 days a week job without leave and the beauty of it is that, it's for as life time.

Stage6: Growing Old
Eventually it happens to everyone. First you start putting in weight, then the wrinkles come, hair turns grey, breast start cagging, tummy bulging and bones weakens gradually. Hmmh! Being a woman is not an easy task.

So, what stage are you in? Remember, to always make the best out of every stage you find yourself.

Health Benefits of Morninga Plant (moringa oleifera)

The Degeneration of the Generation

These days, everything you hear or see

At all places: on the land, air or at sea

Is a morbid manifestation of what our society is,

which makes you to conclude that ours is this?

The degeneration of our degeneration

Children are no longer obedient to their parents;

They are rude and discourteous to the elders;

At school, they dawdle and idle, wasting their talents.

How would these ragamuffins obey perfect orders?

The degeneration of our degeneration

Young boys and girls (on campus) even in high schools pick bad habits

They drink and gamble; they smoke and embrace pop- music,

Rag-tags, riff- raffs they are; they are the nit- wits

Alien culture they imbibe as other excesses make their heart sick

The degeneration of our degeneration

Transparent dresses are now in vogue

Mini- skirt, tight fitting clothes the female now wear

Abandons for good are the church and the mosque

At those who are modest, people now sneer and gear

The degeneration of our degeneration

Youths are incorrigible in their insatiable greed

Undergraduates want to bag certificates, so as to steal and loot

Mere worldlings like themselves, worldly people breed

When you tell them, “be sincere” you hear sincerity, my foot

Evil are the words that are now favoured by man

As all is poised to (in) advertently follow

Through indecent, pornographic films embraces by crooks

Many are greatly misled, as they are by bad books, magazine and internet

Quite a degeneration of this degeneration

The older ones even do not fare better, they are sybaritic.

In them, there are many a go- better

In matters related to religious or faith, they fatter

All what they crave after is just bread and butter!

The degeneration of our degeneration

How sad it is about this our generation:

Righteousness is now considered as civilization

Morality is today a source of derision and humiliation

Decency, modesty in dressing is being subjected to condemnation

Ah! What a degeneration of this our own degeneration!

Injustice is presently raised to be raised to the peak of elevation

Sins and crimes are what people hail in glorification

The “culture of nakedness” is now a celebration

Hypocrisy in (wo)men wins laurels and commendation.

What a scandalous degeneration of this “wasted generation”!

All theses I say dear readers:

It is not as if, I am better in character than you or the other

The fact remains that we are in this all together

Rather ponder on issues, and about me, do not bother.

Oh! The d-e-g-e-n-e-r-a-t-i-o-n of our d-e-g-e-n-e-r-a-t-i-o-n!

The Best Power Foods for Women

You grind in the gym every day to look and feel your best, but if your diet doesn't include these 12 power foods, you're doing yourself and your health a disservice!

To strengthen bones: parmesan cheese
Calcium is key for preventing osteoporosis (especially in your 20s). Yogurt and nonfat milk help, but who wants them three times a day? Work Parmesan cheese (A solid food prepared from the pressed curd of milk, often seasoned and aged) into your diet; its 340 mg of calcium per ounce - compared to about 200 mg in cheddar or Swiss - goes a long way toward your 1000 mg/day quota. 

To boost immunity: apples
 Smart and sweet, apples are rich in quercetin, an antioxidant that can bolster your body's disease-fighting abilities. In one study from Appalachian State University, just 5 percent of people who ate more quercetin came down with a respiratory infection over a two-week period, compared to 45 percent of those who didn't.

To build your iron stores: lentils
Low-calorie lentils pack about 30 percent of your daily iron per cup cooked. About 12 percent of young women have low iron stores - at the extreme, that leads to anemia. But one study found that even women who were iron deficient (not anemic) had poorer performances on skill tests than those with normal levels.

To fight wrinkles: broccoli
 "A cup of broccoli has 100 percent of your vitamin C-crucial for production of collagen, which gives skin elasticity," says Tammy Lakatos Shames, R.D. It's also rich in beta-carotene, which the body converts to vitamin A. This vitamin assists in cell turnover, so old skin cells are replaced with fresh (read: younger-looking) ones.

To get healthy carbs: potatoes
 Potatoes contain a fat-fighting compound called resistant starch that can help keep weight in check. One medium spud with the skin will run you just around 100 calories, and with more potassium than bananas, potatoes also help fight heart disease by keeping blood pressure low.

To up your intake of foliate: spinach
This leafy green is high in vitamin K and also contains calcium and magnesium - a combo that may help slow the breakdown of bone that occurs as you get older - as well as foliate, a B vitamin that helps prevent birth defects. And it packs just 7 calories per cup raw!

To stress less: dark chocolate
European researchers found that people who ate an ounce and a half of dark chocolate - about 200 calories worth-every day for two weeks produced less of the stress hormone cortisol and reported feeling less frazzled. Cortisol causes a temporary rise in blood pressure; consistently high levels up your risk for depression, obesity, heart disease and more.

To fight cancer: mushrooms
One study showed that women who ate just one third of an ounce of raw mushrooms a day (that's about one button mushroom) had a 64 percent reduction in breast cancer risk. Other research suggests that mushrooms reduce the effects of aromatase, a protein that helps produce estrogen - a major factor in some breast cancers.

To fight heart disease: sardines
These pungent little fish are good sources of omega-3 acids, which decrease inflammation that can lead to blocked arteries. They also prevent blood clots that can cause heart attacks and strokes, and keep blood vessels smooth and supple. Three ounces of sardines have about 1.3 grams of omega-3s (you need about 1 gram a day).

To help flatten your belly: avocados
 Avocados are high in monounsaturated fat, which has been shown to help you drop weight, including from your troublesome middle. In one study, people who got the most monos (about 23 percent of their daily calories) had about 5 pounds less belly fat than those who ate a high-carb, lower-fat diet.

To protect your eyes: bell peppers
Age-related macular degeneration (AMD) and cataracts are leading causes of vision loss, but foods rich in lutein, zeaxanthin, and vitamin C, like bell peppers, can keep eyes sharp. A cup of sliced red, yellow and orange peppers contains nearly twice your daily vitamin C, plus 116 micrograms (mcg) of lutein, and 562 mcg of zeaxanthin.

To boost energy: whole-grain pasta
 Whole-grain pasta is loaded with B vitamins, which help your body convert food into energy. And unlike processed grain products that lack fiber, whole grains are more filling than their refined counterparts. In other words, you'll feel satisfied with fewer calories.

Healthy Benefits of Eating Quail Eggs

QUAIL EGGS (Coturnix coturnix)

Are you looking for information on quail eggs? You will find them on this page -- together with easy recipes based on quail eggs usage. With this information on your fingertips, am sure you will think outside the box by going natural (herbal) on your health balance and maintenance rather than going artificial (chemical based drugs nor herbal- chemical based drugs). Remember, we are the fortunate generation that has easy access to the fresh quail egg.

Quail eggs have been known in centuries for their health benefits in Asia but they have been accessible to only a few select: mainly the emperors and their close courtiers. In recent years quail has become the concern of commercial farming and people have been introduced to the miraculous nutritional qualities of the quail eggs. Thus, Quail eggs are considered to be one of the best known natural treatment products. Chinese medical practitioners have been using quail eggs as a treatment for hundreds of years with brilliant results. 

British researchers say that eggs should be pronounced a super-food, as it has a very good impact on our health and even helps to fight obesity. According to nutritionists the egg as food is one of the richest in good in essential ingredients and we all should consume at least one a day. The Nutrition and Food Science magazine has published an article in which researchers emphasize the egg’s important role in general health protection as well as loosing and maintaining body weight.

Dr Carrie Ruxton, the leader of the study analyzed data from not less than 71 previous studies with her colleagues. The research aimed at the nutrient content of the eggs and their role in human diet. It turned out that while eggs are poor in calories, they’re rich in protein and full of essential nutrients important to health, such as vitamin D and B12, selenium and chlorine.

Nature's Answer to your Health, Looks, Smarts, Libido and Gourmet Flair

Quail Eggs is an enriched source of anti-oxidants, essential fatty acids, and Vitamin B Riboflavin, it's often the natural food of choice for medical cures, relief from inflammatory diseases and strengthening our immunity systems. These and other food nutrients further contribute to brain development, sexual potency, glowing skin and healthy hair. And it does this with practically no cabs, no bad cholesterol and food spoilage. Now imagine all of this from a product known for its 5-star elegance and cultural exquisiteness.

Quail Eggs are considered to be one of the best known natural treatment products. Chinese medical practitioners have been using quail eggs as a treatment for hundreds of years with brilliant results. As quail eggs are slowly becoming an easy to get product on the market more and more people are beginning to show interest in their use as an active natural medicine instead of the chemical products with so many side effects.

Experts in natural treatment methods claim that quail eggs have positive effects on people with stress problems, hypertension, digestive disturbance, gastric ulcer, liver problems, blood pressure and lipid control, migraine, asthma, anemia, various types of allergies, eczema, heart problems, bronchitis’s illnesses, depression, panic and anxiety illnesses. Quail eggs are also known to stimulate growth, increase sexual appetite, stimulate brain functions which improves intelligence quotient and generally rejuvenates the body.

A Kid Friendly Food for Healthy Skin, Hair & Immunity

Quail Eggs improves skin color and strengthens hair. That's why quail eggs are used for egg yolk facial and hair care masks. Its Vitamin B2 Riboflavin provides glowing and healthy skin, while the Vitamins A, B and E give your child shiny and voluminous hair. All this form a 100% natural alternative to harmful hair and skin care chemicals. Quail eggs are also rich in proteins, antioxidants and lysozyme. As a sugar-free, non-processed source of these nutrients, this makes quail eggs ideal for controlling infections and inflammations leading to asthma, allergies, eczema and psoriasis.

Quail Eggs Offers Hope For Chronic medical Conditions…

As an alkaline forming product, quail eggs have been prescribed as a dietary remedy against tract disorders such as gastritis and ulcers. Along with its enriched source of antioxidants, magnesium, Vitamin B6 and potassium, the quail egg can remove stones formed in the kidneys, liver and gall bladder. They also have the nutrients and properties to help give you the needed energy, resistance from illness, and faster recovery following surgery or from chemotherapy effects and other cancer treatments. Finally, as a low cab, low calorie food; quail eggs are ideal as a non-invasive approach to heart conditions and diabetes treatment. Finally, as a 100% natural source of iron, Vitamin A & B12, quail eggs can greatly benefit those suffering from anemia.

Boosts your Body, Libido and Brain Power

It is no wonder that quail eggs are a common staple in Asian diets. As an enriched source of choline and omega-3 fatty acids, nutritionists recognize the benefits of quail eggs in promoting good memory, enhancing brain activity and regulating the nervous system. Body builders recognize the advantages of quail eggs over chicken eggs as a high protein food without the carbohydrates and bad HDL cholesterol. Now add its phosphorus and Vitamin B, D & E for testosterone, and men have a 100% natural aphrodisiac that does not compromise weight maintenance.

HOW TO CONSUME QUAIL EGGS

To eat quail eggs as part of a healthy diet it is recommended to consume them raw. A lot of the people don’t like the idea but to make the taste more pleasant you can mix it in orange or tomato juice. In order to strengthen the immune system and improve the blood quality a course of 60 eggs is recommended. Initially 3, then 5 eggs a day should be consumed. Obviously no one is suggesting that quail eggs are any kind of a wonder-medicine and will cure serious illnesses like cancer or similar, but their positive effect on human body has been proven.

In the table below you will find suggestion as to how to administrate quail eggs. The following recommendations are sorted by age:

Age Group	Total No of Quail Eggs	Total No of Days	1st Day	2nd Day	3rd Day	From the 4th Day on
Adult	240	49	3	3	4	5
Adult	120	25	3	3	4	5
16-18 yrs	120	25	3	3	4	5
11-15 yrs	120	31	3	3	3	4
8-10 yrs	90	30	3	3	3	3
4-7 yrs	60	20	3	3	3	3
1-3 yrs	60	30	2	2	2	2
3 months - 1 yr	30	30	1	1	1	1

Natural treatment practitioners recommend the following use of quail eggs as treatment or part of the treatment depending of the illness or condition:

For Children: The consumption of quail eggs is recommended for children whether cooked or raw for their physical and mental balance. Quail eggs help improving the IQ.
Growth stimulation and metabolism improvement	100 eggs
Reactivate the nerves and central nervous system	120 eggs
For the elderly: Quail eggs have brilliant regenerative effects on the body therefore are recommended for the elderly. It can calm down and/or cure many diseases attributed to old age, deficiency or excess nutrients in the body.
Quail eggs help renewing the state of health and brings the body to equilibrium, combats the degenerative process and rejuvenates the body	240 eggs
Revives memory and protects nerve cells	120 eggs
Improves sexual potency	120 eggs
Reinforces organs weakened by physical work or stress	240 eggs
Fortifies the body	240 eggs
Allergy treatment:
Asthma	240 eggs
Skin rash	120 eggs
Eczema conjunctivitis	120 eggs
Allergic rhinitis	240 eggs
Gastro intestinal tract disorder treatment:
Gastric ulcers	240 eggs
Poor digestion	120 eggs
Excess secretions of stomach acids	120 eggs
Treatment of liver diseases:
Improves organ functions	240 eggs
Treatment of Renal diseases:
Improves organ functions	240 eggs
Treatment of heart diseases:
Improves the functioning of the heart in the case of coronary sclerosis	240 eggs
Treatment of circulatory diseases:
Anaemia	240 eggs
Arterial hypertension	240 eggs
Treatment of metabolic diseases:
Gouts	240 eggs
Obesity	240 eggs
Diabetes	240 eggs
Treatment of nervous diseases:
Neurasthenics	240 eggs
Nervous state	240 eggs
Benefits of quail eggs during pregnancy and while breast feeding:
The consumption of quail eggs fortifies the woman’s body during pre and post natal periods as well as after surgery and radiotherapy. It also has beneficial effects on the foetus (physical and mental balance) and for the mother after delivery (physical rehabilitation and rejuvenation of cells). Quail eggs also improve the quality of breast milk.	240 eggs
HIV, AIDS:
The consumption of quail eggs by HIV AIDS patients improves CD4	240 eggs

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