YOU ARE LOVED BEYOND REASON

 Hi,

You are loved
You are loved beyond reason
You are loved beyond your imagination

So stop beating up yourself

You are perfect the way you are
You are at exactly the right place
You are where you meant to be

Start caring deeply for yourself

You are so valuable to this world
You have so much to say
You have so much to share
You have so much to give

That's what I wanted to say to you today

Have a great day.

Caring deeply about you,
Yhemmy.

[Summary] The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, written by Stephen R.Covey, is really an insightful book. I have learnt a lot from reading it and would like to share with you a summary of it.

Habit 1: Be Proactive 
Proactive people believe they have control and do not blame other people or circumstances.
Proactive People take action in the areas they can do something about.

Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind
Understand your destination so that you can take steps in the right direction. For example, before a person constructs a house, he tries to be clear of the type of house he wants. By keeping the end clearly in mind, you can be sure that whatever you do each day contributes meaningfully to your vision and manage yourself to do what matters most.

Habit 3: Put First Things First 
Clarify your values and set goals. Plan and prioritize activities. Something that is important contributes to your mission and values. Effective people focus on opportunities, not problems.
What is the one thing you can do in your personal and professional life that can create a great positive difference in your life (for example, build relationships, recognize new opportunities etc)?

Habit 4: Think Win-Win
Win-Win is thinking that there is enough for everyone and seek to cooperate with others rather than compete, Thinking win-win can create a strong positive impact on your effectiveness.

Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood
The four basic types of communication are reading, writing, speaking and listening. Listen to understand not to reply. By listening deeply to others, you can notice the vast difference in perceptions. By deeply understanding others, you get accurate information and can work with others effectively.


Habit 6: Synergize
Synergy bring about the greatest powers among people. Synergy means working as a whole rather than as separate individuals. All parties gain insight and the momentum for more learning and growth is created. Synergies help expand minds and promote greater improvement.

Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw
This is the habit that make all the other habits possible. Sharpening the saw means preserving and enhancing ourselves, renewing our four dimensions: Physical, Spiritual, Mental and Social/Emotional.
Physical: Exercise, Nutrition and Stress Management
Spiritual: Value Clarification and Commitment, Study and Meditation
Mental: Reading, Visualizing, Planning and Writing
Social/ Emotional: Service, Empathy, Synergy and Intrinsic Security
Do not neglect any of the four areas or else the rest will be negatively affected. To be effective, we need to sharpen the saw in all four ways.

I highly recommend you to read the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Steven R.Covey and understand the habits in detail. The book has sold more than 20 million copies. There are many examples in the book. Hope these habits help you in some way :)
 

To Your Prosperity,

How Are You Doing

Hello Gorgeous,

Just checking in on you. How are you doing? Trust you're making progress in achieving your goals right?

Look I am sure you are and I am not worried..

But in case you're not and you're at a stage in life where you are stuck or hit a brick wall, don't despair.

The best 'breakthroughs' in life happen when you hit brick wall, a challenge, or a major obstacle.

As the situation forces you to desperately think from a completely different level of consciousness to find a solution. 

When something like this happens to you, you have a choice.

You can either give up, quit, and just accept the situation or you can find ways to go over, under, or through the wall and do whatever it takes to get yourself out of it.

Just know that YOU have the power to change yourself, the power to find a solution to any challenge you face, and the strength and determination to follow through and take action.

There are no mistakes in life, only learning lessons.

And learning lessons, the more painful they are.. are the ultimate catalysts to transform your life.

Remember what I told you about taking action right? 

DECISIONS + IMMEDIATE ACTIONS = RESULTS (Immediate action is the key..)

Talk soon..

Marriage Communication

Types of communication needed in every relationship –

Communication is key in any relationship. It is what starts and keeps successful courtship and marriages. Couples should learn to communicate well which will help them make the best of what they can offer each other to get what they want.

Here are 5 kinds of communication needed in every relationship:

1. Non verbal communication:-
From facial expressions to body positioning, even a certain kind of movement is a non-verbal communication. Couples who understand this kind of unspoken communication get along better in their relationship.

2. Emotional communication:-
When emotional communication is lost a relationship is doomed. Emotional communication tells you a lot about your partner and how you can solve issues whenever they arise.

3. Verbal communication:-
This is one sure way to have either a negative or positive communication experience with your partner. Whatever you say to each other can either make or break your relationship.

4. Auditory communication
Listening is a way to communicate effectively with your partner. Giving your partner your ears will help you meet them at their point of need which they’ll really appreciate about you; it’ll also give you an idea on how to respond whenever a discussion is going on.

5. Optical communication:-
The eye is the window of the soul. It simply means you see your partner for who they truly are than an outsider would. You see their faces when they talk, how their body reacts to you and other little things you’ll remember for a long time. When you and your partner look at each other, the unsaid words are spoken directly to your souls.

Be inspired!

It's The 7th Month

So, it's the 7th month of the year and what Nigerians call the 2nd half of the year.
But do you know that many nations don't live by the 2nd half myth? As a matter of fact are you aware that God doesn't live by the first half and the 2nd half myth.

He talks about days and nights which means He is a respecter of effective deployment of your 24hours.

Where you are as at today is a perfect reflection of what you have consistently done with every 24hours that God has given you this year and where you will be in December to a large extent will also be determined by what you change about your 24hours.

What you don't know never changes until you humble yourself to learn it;
Who you are never changes until you take responsibility for your new life;
Your bad habit that has been sabotaging your good intentions never change until you get help.

Don't fall for motivational speaking this season. Fall for responsible living and change your life. Whatever did not happen in the first 6months may not happen in the next 6months if you don't intentionally initiate the change.

It may be a change of friendship, association or even a change of your routine, habits or even what you read.

God is the same yesterday, today and forever. Same as the devil. God's goodness won't increase because of you cos He is always good and the Devil's evil won't increase in the next 6months cos all he knows to do is evil.

You are the one that must choose your area of alignment and create the discipline and habits that takes advantage of the provisions God has made available for you.

Don't wait for chance or luck create the chance and step into it with confidence.
Don't wait for ember month or last minute miracles in November motivational speaking. Today is your day.

God is on your side but are you on His side?

No matter the scarcity in the jungle it will never happen that the sons of a lion will eat grass.

Happy new day

Be inspired. #Copied.

"I have no time" or "I am too busy"...

These are common responses that I often hear nowadays. 

Do you get these responses from people as well? 

Many people seem to be busy. But the time to read and attend seminars is essential, especially to improve our financial knowledge.

When it comes to investing or doing business, ignorance can be dangerous. 

However, for something that is important to us, we will surely make time for it.

So, I stop myself from saying "I am busy". 

It's not about having no time but about time management or having the need to find ways to achieve more or do things in a better way. 

This is a way to get more things done:

Allocate some time (let's say, an hour) for each task, really concentrate and get it done.

You'll be surprised how much you can get done within a day.

If not, it is easy to get only one thing done or not getting anything done within several hours.

When we plan our time well, we will have more time for important things in our lives.

We can spend more time with our loved ones and friends, have more time to read, relax, get adequate sleep, think and come up with good ideas and exercise.

Good time management improves our relationships with others, our finances and our health. 

It is always important to make each day productive.

"The bad news is time flies. The good news is you're the pilot." 

~ Michael Altshuler -

Be inspired!!!

Things You Do That Are Holding You Back From Being The You Of Your Dream...

 * You compare yourself to others.

Stop looking at others lives and being sad or upset about your current situation.  It causes fear.  Your life is “Your” life….its you.  You can’t follow their plan or their life exactly.  You are unique so make sure that your path fits you.

Shift your focus instead to where you are today compared to yesterday to get a more accurate picture of the progress you’re making.

* You wait for others’ permission

No one is going to come and tell you its time to start, or where to be.  Don’t wait for them.  YOU know what’s best for you. Trust your gut and your heart, live by YOUR standards, and you’re much more likely to create a life that makes you happy.

Once you understand that you are responsible for everything that has come and gone in your life you’ll realize that everything from here onwards depends on you as well.

* You are to worried about failing

If you really want to put a halt on your happiness.  Go ahead and worry about it not happening.  FEAR of anything is the biggest destroyer of your life.  It will control your actions and movement leaving you in a place and mental state that is very hard to get out of

* You wait for the “right” time

You keep putting something off because it’s not the “right” time yet. You need to make a few more improvements, get more experience, learn a few more skills. You wait for the economy to improve, the weather to get better or for a sign that you should start. This is just your mind playing delay tactics and winning. The right time is now.

* You expect results right now

Everything in life takes time.  Look how long it took you to be who you are today.  So why do we think that everything will change overnight?  Persistence and inspired action are the keys to getting your results.

Be inspired!

(Strange Reality) - Instead Of Waiting, Give It Yourself...

Hello Dearie,

If you are like most people, then you too have this strange tendency to wait for others to fill in your needs. This pattern of “waiting for others” is a bad habit, causing a lot of pain and stress in your relationships. It can even be fatal and needlessly ruin 

a relationship! Reason enough to take a closer look at this habit and learn how to handle it.

 At the start of a new relationship, you get everything you have been longing for, sometimes since early childhood: love, affection, tenderness, attention, excitement and energy. 

 You think you’ve finally found your Prince Charming (or Princess Charming) and all your needs are fulfilled forever, “They lived long and happily ever after.” You wallow in the illusion that this new excitement will last forever, and that you don’t have to do anything in order to keep receiving this stream of love and energy from your significant other. 

Reality turns out differently. Not that after a while your lover loves you less, but that a big share of his attention and energy goes to his job, friends and activities he used to have before meeting you.

 You panic. What’s going on? Does he not love you anymore? Did you become ugly, fat, or boring? You try to find a reason why the stream of energy coming from him is weakening. You were used to feel 300 Volt coming from him, and now you have to content yourself with a lousy 100. 

 You decide that you won’t let this happen and you demand he continues to give you what he gave in the beginning. You are focused on what you think you are entitled to receive, and on what the other “should” be giving you. 

 How strange! Why don’t you focus on what YOU can give to HIM? Why be so stubborn to maintain this bizarre belief that everything you need should be given to you by someone else? Why wait for the other to give to you what you need? Why not give it to yourself? And why not simply give to the other what YOU would like to receive for yourself? 

 You have nothing to lose by this approach. But I can assure you that you have a lot to gain: love, affection, tenderness, attention, excitement and energy. That’s right! Exactly the same things the other freely provided you with in the beginning! 

 YOU can give them to yourself, and to him. Giving is the only fail-safe way to make sure you receive. Try to understand this. If you have to wait for somebody else to give you what you need, you can wait forever and there’s a decent risk you will never get it. If you give what you need to yourself and to the other, then you have it both ways: once because you gave it to yourself, and once because you will get back from the other what you gave him. You can have your pie and eat it! 

 Why does it work this way? Because by giving something, you are tuning yourself to the frequency of that which you give. Let’s say, for example, you need attention. Instead of examining the behaviour, facial and verbal expressions of your partner, trying to detect whether he gives you enough attention, you can give attention to him! Ask him how he is feeling right now, how his day went, what he learned today, and if he met any interesting people. Show your genuine interest, and I bet he will be interested in you too. You give attention, and you will get attention in return!  

 * You want love? Give love! 

 * You want advice? Give advice! 

 * You need an energy boost? Boost up someone else’s energy level and in doing so you will feel your own energy rising! 

 * You want people to listen to you? Then first listen carefully to someone else who needs to be heard. 

 * You want more friends? Then befriend others! 

 * You want more respect from your children? Respect them! 

 * So, in order to get what you want, learn to give it first 

 * Instead of waiting for your significant other to give you love, why don’t you give love to him or her? 

 * Instead of waiting for your children to respect you, why don’t you start by respecting them? Be an example. 

 *Instead of dreaming of a wonderful job that satisfies your needs, try to be wonderful at your current job first! 

 * Instead of wanting your friends to invest time and energy in your relationship, why don’t you give some 

extra time and energy to them? 

 * Instead of waiting for peace and calm to come into your life, why don’t you create the silence and inner balance needed to feel the peace you long for? It’s all a matter of energy vibrating. 

By giving what you want to others, you are tuning in to the vibrational energy of what it is you want. If you want love and you give it to others, you are in the energy of love already. Giving love makes you feel that love and thus you then attract more love into your life. Giving attention makes you feel the attention. Giving respect puts you in the energy vibration of respect and you will attract more respect towards yourself. 

This works for anything you desire. You will not only get what you want by giving it, but you will also be much less dependent on others. You will feel the power of being in charge of your own life! 

Be inspired!

True Things You Didn’t Know about Men and Erections

I bet you do not really know your p*nis as much as you think you do. Trust me, these five facts will surely blow your mind. 

Do you really know your magic stick? Are you knowledgeable about erections? Well, this piece has some p*nis and erection facts that may blow your mind. 

(1) Too much masturbation can affect your erection. If you masturbate too much, you might have problems with your getting your p*nis fully erect. According to a s*x therapist guy who has not masturbated for a long time is more likely to have a stronger erection than the one that masturbated very recently. 

(2) Body size can affect erection size. Believe it or not your erection is very much affected by your body size. Men with obesity issues are most likely going to have erection problems too, because they will also have low testosterone levels. So staying fit is highly important. 

(3) Getting enough sleep is important. Simply put, more sleep is good for your erection.

(4) Erections are weakened by too much smoking and drinking. It has been discovered that many men who suffer erectile dysfunctions abuse alcohol and smoked too much. Step down on those habits and keep your erection. 

(5) Oral s*x can make the penis larger. Getting oral s*x can make the erection stronger and make the p*nis longer. So you might want to ask for one before making out. 

Feel free to pass on the knowledge. 

Be inspired.

It Takes a Positive Attitude to Achieve Positive Results

It Takes a Positive Attitude to Achieve Positive Results

 Note: Realize that YOU are in control of how you think and feel.

Your attitude determines the state of the world you live in. It is the foundation for every success and every failure you have had and will have. It will make you or break you.

Your attitude controls your life. But the good news? You control your attitude.

Attitude creates the way you feel about people and situations. Your actions are a result of your attitude—which in turn creates a reaction from others.

It is your attitude toward others and the universe that determines the resulting attitude toward you. Have a positive, joyful attitude and you’ll have positive, joyful results. Put out a bad, negative attitude and you’ve failed before you begin.

Basically, what you think is you get.

I know it sounds simple, but, the truth is, it is:

Where do negative attitudes come from?

Negative attitudes come from thinking negative thoughts over and over until they become part of your subconscious, part of your personality—they become habitual. You may not even realize you have a negative attitude because it’s been with you for so long. Once you have a bad attitude, you expect failure and disaster. And that expectation turns you into a magnet for failure and disaster.

Then it becomes a vicious cycle: You expect the worst, so you get the worst. Your negative beliefs are reinforced. So you expect the worst, and you get the worst.

So, how do you shift your thoughts and create a positive attitude?

It takes work, but creating anything of value takes work. In order to have a new attitude, you have to change your subconscious thinking. How? By analyzing every thought you have until positive thinking becomes habit. You’re merely replacing an old habit with a healthy habit, much like replacing smoking with exercise.

You can’t just stop being negative—you have to replace those negative thoughts with positive ones.

Some people would say, “But negative situations are a reality. They just show up in everyday life.”

This is absolutely not true. Situations are a reality, yes. They do show up, yes. It is your attitude that makes a situation positive or negative. It’s time for you to realize that you are in control of how you think and feel—no one else on earth has this power unless you give it away.

Take control of your attitude, your state of mind, and you take control of your results

Be inspired.