Make YOU a Priority...

It is important that you make time for yourself--you can't help others if you don't help yourself first. What's needed is radical self-care:

Be deliberate in your choices. We can't be all things to all people. Sort out what's really important to you and exercise your right to say no. Saying no is saying yes to yourself.

Alone Time. Set aside at least ten minutes daily to reflect; make it part of your routine. Your priorities are always changing. If you don't take stock of what you need and want, you'll be operating from what worked in the past.

Brag to You, About You. Do you get stuck on what you didn't do rather than what you've actually accomplished? Give yourself the credit you deserve; you do a lot.

I Value You. Cheers

The Importance of Dream Board

What are the advantages of having a Dream Board?

The advantages are as follows:-

‎1. It is a joyous and fun activity. It

allows us to become a child once more.

2. It clarifies our goals and is also a gentle ‎reminder to us to chase our goals and dreams.

Sometimes our morale is down. By looking at the ‎dream board at the wall will spur us once more.

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3. It is a great tool to help us with
visualisation. Not many people can visualise ‎vividly. Therefore holding a mental picture of what we want for about ten to fifteen minutes a day will allow us to focus sharply and achieve our goals. Do you know that visualisation is one of the most powerful mind exercises that one can do?
Olympians use imagery as mental training.

4. It gives us a chance to think beyond our l‎imitations. It aids us in helping us to open up‎ and attract opportunities to transform those

dreams into reality.

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5. It encourages us to take action. 

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I hope we all learn something from the sharing

I Value You.‎

The Truth About Life and You

1. Never stop learning. With the rate at which technologies are changing today, if you decide that you are “done” learning, you will be left behind within a matter of years, if not sooner. The idea that you can’t teach an old dog new tricks is blatantly false, and you will never wake up and regret having invested in your mind by learning something new
2. Diversify. Hand in hand with learning, if you stick to only doing what you know, or what you are good at, you may quickly find that you’re only good at one thing. We need to be agile, nimble, and interested in many different things. Otherwise, you could get stuck in a job or career you don’t love, or that goes with the times. Think of the taxi driver threatened by Uber or the customer service person replaced by a chatbot.  
3. You can go fast alone, but you can go farther together. In other words, teamwork makes the dream work. Many people claim they don’t like to work in teams, but the ability to work well in teams is vital if you want to succeed. The idea of the solo auteur is a myth; every big idea needs a team to make it happen.
4. Worrying doesn’t achieve anything.The antidote to fear and anxiety is action and hustle. If you’re wasting time because you’re afraid to pursue an idea, speak up, or are worried what others will think of you, you won’t achieve your goals. If you push through the worry and the fear, however, and take action, you’ll almost always find that you were worried about nothing.
5. Failure is not an end. If you give up when you fail, you’ll never learn anything. Instead, look at failure as an opportunity, as the beginning of a new journey. If you do, you’re much more likely to try again and succeed at something else.
6. Happiness is a journey, not a destination. So many people put off their happiness; they think, “I’ll be happy when I get that job, when I lose that weight, when I’m in a relationship, when I’m out of a relationship…” and so on. But we can choose to be happy.  Happiness is a habit and a choice. No matter what your situation, if you can approach it with an attitude of happiness, you will be more successful.

I Value You.

THE 5 D’S TO ADDING VALUE TO ONE’S LIFE

1. Discover better ways to do things

2. Disregard your background-your background is not a reason for your back to be on the ground.

3. Distinguish yourself-what are you good with/at/on? Question everything; know your natural habitat.

4. Deliver excellence-timely submission of assignments

5. Drive-through situations-keep your dreams alive, every challenge in life is a phase in life.

In conclusion, "The true value of a human being is determined primarily by how he has attained liberation from the self".

Try to become not a man of success, but rather to become a man of value…

I value you.

Natural Remedies For Your Sagging Breast...

Every woman in the world wishes to have good-looking and well formed breasts through their whole life. The breast sagging is a process that comes with age as a result of losing their flexibility and mildness.

Here are many simple and easy home remedies that you can try to firm sagging breasts. 

1. Ice Massage

Ice massage is also considered very effective to regain firmness in sagging breasts and uplift them. The cold temperature will cause the tissue to contract, in turn making the breasts appear firmer and more lifted.

1. Take 2 ice cubes and massage them in circular motions around each of your breasts for 1 minute only.
2. Dry the breasts with a soft towel and immediately put on a proper fitting bra.
3. Stay in a reclining position for 30 minutes.
4. Do this at regular intervals throughout the day.

Note: Do not expose your breasts to ice for more than 1 minute at a time as it can cause numbness.

2. Shea Butter

Another natural ingredient to firm and tighten breasts is shea butter. It is a great source of vitamin E that tightens the skin to give your breasts a firmer appearance. Also, it helps prevent cell damage caused by free radicals.

1. Rub some shea butter onto your breasts.
2. Massage in an upward and circular direction for 10–15 minutes.
3. Leave it on for another 10 minutes and then wash it off with water.
4. Follow this remedy 3 or 4 times a week to see noticeable results.

3. Olive Oil

Massaging your breasts with olive oil is an excellent technique to firm sagging breasts. Olive oil is a rich source of antioxidants and fatty acids that can reverse the damage caused by free radicals and prevent sagging breasts. Plus, it will help improve the skin tone and texture.

1. Put some olive oil onto your palms and rub them together to generate heat.
2. Rub your palms over your breasts in an upward motion.
3. Massage gently for about 15 minutes to increase blood flow and stimulate cell repair.
4. Follow this remedy at least 4 or 5 times per week.

You can also use almond, argan, avocado or jojoba oil to massage your breasts. 

4. Exercise

Those with saggy breasts must incorporate exercise in their daily routine. Exercises that target breast tissues and pectoral muscles around the chest can help a lot to add firmness.

Some exercises that can effectively lift up and firm sagging breasts are– chest presses and pulls, arm raises, round-about push-ups, and dumbbell flyes.

Additional Tips

• Avoid extreme dieting as drastic weight loss in a short time span can cause your breasts to sag.
• Always wear the right fitting bra to provide enough support for your breasts. If needed, wear a push-up bra to give your breasts proper support. Wear a sports bra while doing aerobic exercises, playing tennis, jogging or doing any kind of workout that causes the breasts to bounce.
• If you are overweight, lose weight. Excessive body weight causes the skin to stretch and breasts to sag.
• You can also try yoga to tone and tighten the breasts within a realistic range.
• Eat healthy foods with essential nutrients like proteins, vitamins, calcium, minerals, carbohydrates and essential fats that are required to firm up the breasts.

Enjoy. 

Why Ladies Shouldnt Wear Bra To Sleep

Wearing bra at night is a common matter of debate. Some women feel it safe to wear bra while sleeping. But if you wear bra while sleeping, then you may face these health problems.

Disturbed sleep: Wearing a bra will definitely going to disturb your sleep.

Sweating and Skin irritation: Wearing bra while sleeping make you sweat more. This will also trigger skin irritation. 

Reduce circulation: Wearing bra while sleeping may reduce circulation. This makes your sleep uncomfortable.

Oedema: Wearing bra at night causes lymphatic blockage. Lymphatic blockage may result in oedema or fluid accumulation in the bre@sts.

Cancer: Some studies show that wearing bra while sleeping increase chances of bre@st cancer.

Pigmentation: Pigmentation in portion where elastic is tighter is a common problem but wearing bar while sleeping make it worse.

Restlessness: Wearing a tight bra while sleeping can make you restless in the night. Restlessness will have adverse effect on your health. 

I value you.

Falling In Love

Hey Gorgeous,

Fall in love with someone who chooses you just as confidently as you choose them. Commit to the person who lifts you up whenever things get rough, the person who fights to make things work when the reality of life gets difficult and discouraging.

Fall in love with someone who sees the wars within you and not only chooses to stay, but chooses to stand by your side and help you fight them. Strive to find someone who cradles your dark, who embraces your light, someone who always wants to be your best when you yourself are not your best; someone who reminds you of every strong thing you are whenever you feel feeble.

Fall in love with someone who does not make you feel like you are hard to love. Give your heart to someone who does not call you weak for feeling so deeply, someone who adores the soft creature you are, and who fights to protect it in a hardened world.

Fall in love with someone who challenges you, who inspires you to think and feel. Fall in love with someone who ignites a wildness within you; someone who grows your mind just as much as they grow your heart.

Fall in love with someone who respects you for changing because they understand that it means you’re growing. Dedicate yourself to the person who stands in awe of how you bloom, how you flourish; someone who loves you not only for who you are, but for who you have the potential to be.

Please, do not ever settle for less. Keep waiting. Keep learning about yourself, keep trying and fighting for the heart within your chest. Keep growing and nourishing your wants, keep discovering your needs. When the time is right, you are going to fall in love with someone who will appreciate everything you stand for, who will compliment you in ways you never imagined. When the time is right, the love you have always been worthy of will flower within your life, and you will finally, finally, understand why you had to wait so long.

I value you.

Major Things You Should Never Do to Please a Man…

There are certain things you should never do for a man in order to make him happy, these are some of them.

Many ladies in the society have been brainwashed into believing it is entirely up to them to keep a man at home and make a relationship work. This is the mentality that is being passed on to the young ladies who have attained the age of marriage.

Words like love, faith, patience, resilience, commitment, dedication and prayer are terms you have to deal with as couples. Women are not born with these qualities or virtues; the strong and reputable women you see in the environment had to work on themselves. A woman who has all these qualities is considered to be refined.

For a woman to be able to possess these qualities, that means it is possible to find men with outstanding qualities too. So why do women weigh themselves down with the burden of making relationships and marriages work if the holy matrimony is perceived to be a hypocritical religious devotion by the men?

This primitive school of thought has subjected lots of women to slavery in their relationships; they have forced themselves to endure scorn and hardships while some put up with cheating men who cannot pay their own bills.

Find below some of the things you should never do to please a man:

1. Never agree to sleep with another man to get him a job or contract

Some women claim to be so much in love with their men to the point that they would do anything for them. You should never allow a man to coerce you into doing things that are beneath your standard.

If you are willing to sleep with your boss to get him a job or a contract, then you are putting yourself on the spot as you have given him a reason big enough for you to break up.

Apart from him not trusting you, you could suffer a big depression as you have compromised your standard and this may dwindle your self-esteem.

2. Do not agree to threesome even if he suggests it

Men have crazy s*xual fantasies; you should never give in to anything that would make you get ridiculed at the long run. the only reason why this may not matter to you is if you are in for the fun of it.

But even at that, your integrity is at stake. Do not agree to let him sleep with your friend while you are there and do not succumb to sleeping with him and his friend too.

Your emotion would be on the line and things would get messy at the long run. Think about this; will a man who wants to marry you be willing to share you with his friend?

3. Do not give him the history of your life

Now, no one is asking you to be secretive in your relationship. It is important for you to open up to your partner and discuss issues that would push your relationship ahead.

While doing this, you should know that your partner doles not need every detail of your life. Some ladies make this silly mistake of baring everything as soon as they fall in love. Not every man deserves to know your history as those things could be used against you.

4. Avoid sending nude pictures of yourself

Ladies globally most especially in Nigeria please wake up. It is not okay for you to send naked pictures of yourself to any man simply because you are trying to bridge the gap between you both. A man that would cheat would always cheat no matter what.

Even when you trust your partner and know that your nud3 pictures are safe with him, have you thought about what could happen if his phone got stolen?

The pictures could get into the wrong hands and you could become one of those girls whose nud3 pictures are displayed in social media.

5. Never give up on your dreams

There are so many talented and intelligent women in the society; these women have loads of potentials stored in them. However, they have recoiled into their shells because they want to please their partners.

They would give up on their dreams and embrace that of their partners. It would be difficult living a fulfilled life if you always subject yourself to the opinions of others.

Be inspired. 

Things We Need To Let Go Very Fast

10 Weird Things We Need To Let Go

Everybody wants to be happy, but only few are brave enough to put in the work to be so. It’s not some magical feeling that finds its way to your life.

You need to be self aware in order to even begin to find happiness. It really starts with you. You need to get to know yourself, what you’re looking for, what you like, what you don’t like, things like that.

There’s a lot of learning involved before you can say you are truly happy. It’s a constant process, not some prized possession you leave in a trophy case.

Here are some of the things we need to let go because they hinder us from finding true happiness:

1) Others’ approval

Basing your life decisions on other people’s feelings about it is insane. You know that you can’t please everybody, you know that there will always be something someone won’t approve of or will displease them.

Why bother seeking comfort in others’ approval when it means sacrificing what would make you happy? That’s not comforting at all. That you have to give up what would make life better for you for people who aren’t going to live it for you.

Your life is yours alone. Live it according to you.

2) Pride

Nothing ever gets resolved with this. If you’re stubborn and refuse to believe you’re wrong, especially when you are, then you’re not helping yourself.

Part of growing, of evolving into the person you’re supposed to become is in knowing when you’re right, and knowing when you’re wrong.

If you know you’ve made a mistake, have the humility to admit it.

3) Expectations

Yes, the golden rule, treat others the way you would want them to treat you, is a good measure of how you should be, but it doesn’t guarantee that others will follow suit.

You can’t expect people to act and react the way you would given a particular situation. You can only hope that they do right by you, but if they don’t, you need to be the one to adjust accordingly.

4) Anger

Staying mad at people who have wronged you will only make you feel burdened. It’s going to weigh heavily on you, not them, if you don’t learn to let go of it.

Anger is consuming and if you don’t know how to handle it correctly, it can and it will take over your life–how you see things, how you feel about people, etc.

It’s always best to forgive people, even if you haven’t received an apology.

5) Idea of Perfection

Life isn’t perfect, people aren’t perfect, even the perfectly planned vacation isn’t always perfect.

Why insist on perfection when nothing really is?

Learn to recreate your definition of what perfect is, something that’s attainable. Like, a perfect day is getting to see at least one of your loved ones, or going home to your family, having a nice dinner, and sleeping on a comfortable bed.

Your definition of a perfect partner, a perfect life, is up to you. Make it count.

6) Greed

The quest for more could land you in a lot of trouble. Sometimes our lust for more power, more money, more danger, takes over reason and logic.

You need to ask yourself what’s driving your ‘need’ to want the things you want. You’d be surprised how little you actually need to live a happy life. Less is more.

7) Excuses

You will always find a reason to do something and not do something else.

Our reasoning depends on how much we want to do one thing.

Stop making excuses for why you’re not where you want to be, why you’re not doing what you’re passionate about, why you don’t have the body you dream of, etc.

If there’s a will, there’s usually a way.

8) Thoughts of the past

Staying stuck in the past could really hurt your chances of being happy now.

Stop thinking about your ex and what they did to you. They are out of your life for a reason, and one of them is so that you wouldn’t have to think about them anymore.

Stop thinking about friends who stabbed you in the back or pushed you down.

If they’re not part of your life anymore, then you’ve done yourself a favor.

That promotion you didn’t get last year, then try your best to get it this year. That vacation you couldn’t afford, book it now. Move up and move on.

9) Insecurities

There will always be people better than you. There will always be someone better looking, more hardworking, sexier, more intelligent, and the list is endless.

But it doesn’t matter.

You need to be enough for yourself, in your own eyes.

Most of the time, your loved ones already know that you don’t need to be more for them to love and accept you. You need to see yourself through those eyes from time to time.

10) Control

By now you already know that as much as you like planning things to the detail, there is a very real chance that they won’t be followed.

Life is more than the things we plan.

The spontaneous things, the ones that surprise us are the ones that really make us feel alive.

Also, attempting to control how others see you or how they feel about you is a futile effort. The best you can do is make yourself the kind of person that you want to be and the right people will love you for exactly that.

Control is good for certain things, but it’s not something you should attempt to do all the time and get anxious about when things don’t go your way. Learn to let things happen as they will.

YOU ARE LOVED BEYOND REASON

 Hi,

You are loved
You are loved beyond reason
You are loved beyond your imagination

So stop beating up yourself

You are perfect the way you are
You are at exactly the right place
You are where you meant to be

Start caring deeply for yourself

You are so valuable to this world
You have so much to say
You have so much to share
You have so much to give

That's what I wanted to say to you today

Have a great day.

Caring deeply about you,
Yhemmy.