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New Beginnings and Final Endings

There has to be endings to create new beginnings. And just like what Mitch Albom, author of “The Five People You Meet in Heaven,” wrote: “All endings are also beginnings. We just don’t know it at the time.”

An old year ends and a New Year begins, full of promises of change and new experiences.

It’s a great way to look at endings in our lives. Some endings, such as the death of a loved one, will leave you sad, but if you can accept it as an entire host of good memories and eventually go on with what the new beginnings have in store for you, you’ll live a happier and more fulfilled life.

Each step in your life is necessary for you to continue growing. The end of high school or college signifies the beginning of an adult lifestyle and possibly a career that you’ve studied for.

Every New Year is an opportunity for you to sit down and figure out what you want to do differently this year that will make you a better and happier person.

Do you want to lose weight, quit smoking, move on to another job?

Now is the time to rethink and reset your goals and make the necessary changes in your life.

Whether the previous year ended on a good note or not, you have to get a grip and move on. Otherwise, it'll interfere with the future you want to have and keep you from making the changes you need to make.

If you don’t learn to accept endings to allow for new beginnings, you could simply give up and that would mean unhappiness and a lifetime of regrets.

Think about things in a new way. You may think of yourself as “set in your ways,” about certain things, but you have the right to change your mind if something occurs (such as more knowledge) to tilt your thinking another way. Sometimes it helps to gain a fresh perspective on life and let go of old beliefs.

Take the chance whenever an exciting and fulfilling idea appears in your life. In this way, you will live without regrets.

To your successful 2018,

Olayemi
For: GirlsAffair

Note: A good mental well-being will mean a good start to the new year too. Stay calm throughout the new year wit your positive confession.

Season Greetings

Thank you ALL for being part of the course that makes GirlsAffair a force to reckon with.

I love you ALL because you are indeed the reason for this season.

Bad Habits That Hold You Back From Your Best Self

“You'll never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine.” ~John C. Maxwell.

We all have bad habits. The problem is that many of our habits are so deeply ingrained that we don’t even notice them anymore. If we do, we make excuses to hang onto them.

Some of these habits could be harmful to you, and may even be holding you back from reaching your potential. If you have any of the following common habits, now is the chance to nip them in the bud as the year is running to an end and become the best version of you possible in another year!

* Over eating - (stressful binge eating...)

* Being a pushover - (never saying "no"...)

* Neglecting yourself (not taking good care of yourself...)

* Spending too much money (spending when you feel depressed...

* Stressing out - (over things you know you can't change...)

* Being a workaholic - (trying to be/do everything for everyone...)

* Gaming too much - (playing video games for hours on end...)

* Procrastinating - (putting off things you should be doing...)

* Being chronically late - (to the point it harms job and relationships)

* Being a "yes" person - (too weak willed to say "no" to anyone...)

* Negative thinking - (nothing good ever happens to me...)

* Losing your temper - (without good cause...)

* Neglecting your health - (you are too lazy to bother...)

* Neglecting your family - (don't take the time for them...)

* Blaming others for your problems - (not taking responsibility...)

* Smoking or Drinking - (endangering your health and wellness...)

* Doing Drugs - (trying to use drugs to avoid problems...)

* Nail biting - (which is not healthy and makes you look out of control...)

* Watching too much TV - (you don't care about wasting all this time...)

* Computer addictions - (you get tied up in a fantasy world...)

* Compulsive shopping - (spending money on things you don't need..)

* Lying - (telling tales and even hurting people with malicious gossip!)

Others...

1. Caring too much about what others think

2. Emotional eating.

3. Not acting on your dreams.

4. Always wanting the last word.

5. Living in the past or the future.

Have a great day.

Yhemmy.

Forgiveness- The Secret to Healing The Soul.

Hi Everyone,

Learning to Forgive
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We all harbour the wish to heal our emotional wounds. What exactly is forgiveness?

Forgiveness is not just saying "I forgive you."It is an active, conscious decision to let go of anger, resentment and bitterness, and to do so regardless of whether the object of anger seems worthy of being forgiven.

In fact, the moment you form a thought of forgiveness, the process of forgiveness will already begun. Forgiveness calm stress levels, leading to improved health. As you clear your head-space of feelings of hostility, you being to feel empathy, compassion, and sometimes even affection for the person who wronged you.

When faced with a forgiveness dilemma, practice using the following:

1. Accept- Forgiveness that is rooted in the insight that no one is perfect will bring you some healing even if the other person never apologizes.

2. Visualize- The more you envisage sending love to others, the greater your own positive energy levels.

3. Empathize- Put yourself in the other party's position Do not be quick to judge others or take things personally. In some situations, it's not possible to empathize with the other person. But it is always possible to empathize with yourself, which means giving yourself the gift of letting go.

Have a great day.
Yhemmy.

Same Adversity, Different Results, One Lesson

Not many of us are able to avoid challenges (at times beyond our control) but what is within our control, is how do we manage it..

Once there was a daughter complained to her father that her life was miserable and that she didn’t know how she was going to make it. She was tired of fighting and struggling all the time. It seemed just as one problem was solved, another one soon followed.

Her father, a chef, took her to the kitchen. He filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Once the three pots began to boil, he placed potatoes in one pot, eggs in the second pot, and ground coffee beans in the third pot.

He then let them sit and boil, without saying a word to his daughter. The daughter, moaned and impatiently waited, wondering what he was doing.

After twenty minutes he turned off the burners. He took the potatoes out of the pot and placed them in a bowl. He pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl.

He then ladled the coffee out and placed it in a cup. Turning to her he asked. “Daughter, what do you see?”

“Potatoes, eggs, and coffee,” she hastily replied.

“Look closer,” he said, “and touch the potatoes.” She did and noted that they were soft.

He then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg.

Finally, he asked her to sip the coffee. Its rich aroma brought a smile to her face.

“Father, what does this mean?” she asked.

He then explained that the potatoes, the eggs and coffee beans had each faced the same adversity– the boiling water.

However, each one reacted differently.

The potato went in strong, hard, and unrelenting, but in boiling water, it became soft and weak.

The egg was fragile, with the thin outer shell protecting its liquid interior until it was put in the boiling water. Then the inside of the egg became hard.

However, the ground coffee beans were unique. After they were exposed to the boiling water, they changed the water and created something new.

“Which are you,” he asked his daughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a potato, an egg, or a coffee bean? “

Moral:In life, things happen around us, things happen to us, but the only thing that truly matters is what happens within us.

Which one are you?

Reflect

“ People look for retreats for themselves, in the country, by the coast, or in the hills . . . There is nowhere that a person can find a more peaceful and trouble-free retreat than in his own mind. . . . So constantly give yourself this retreat, and renew yourself. ”

Easy Ways to Learn Anything

I’m sure there are times in life when you feel like you have (nearly) everything figured out harriet, and others when you feel you know nothing at all.

But one thing is for sure.

We never stop learning.

Every experience teaches us something new, and that’s something we can be grateful for.

In this ever-changing world, I’m continuously striving to learn new skills, and when I sense any doubt, there are 5 things I like to remind myself of so that I can keep pushing through. I hope they help you too:

1. Focus on one thing

Ask yourself: What area of life can I focus on right now? What’s that 1 step I can take today? Choose 1 thing. Study it and shut out the outer world.

By being specific and focusing on 1 thing, it’s much easier to avoid feeling overwhelmed and giving up.

2. Don’t be afraid to fail

If you want to learn a new language or dance salsa, most likely you’ll have to practice over and over again until you get the right pronunciation or the right moves. So don’t try to avoid feelings of frustration. Embrace uncertainty as part of the process.

3. Try something out of the box

If you have an open mind about experimenting with new learning methods, then you’ll love this:

Some friends of mine stumbled upon an astonishingly easy and perfectly ethical ‘mind hack’ that lets you master any new skill in just minutes by absorbing the genius of any of the world’s greatest visionaries - all by simply thinking about them!

This fascinating method comes from a series of secret psychological experiments performed in 1970 Soviet Russia.

I know it sounds strange, and even a littlecrazy, and that’s because it is, but it's definitely worth trying.

4. Connect

Simply said: you can’t remember what you don’t connect with.

In fact, many memory experts say the best way to remember something is to associate it with something you already know.

If there are no mental "hooks" for new knowledge to catch on, it tends to go in one ear and out the other.

5. Enjoy the ride

It’s easy to feel frustrated when we feel we’re not making progress, or that things are moving too slowly.

Yet, the answer is to forget about the speed of our progress, and instead focus on enjoying the process of learning.

When we’re enjoying ourselves, instead of focusing on where we want to be, we can relax and learn faster. We can be grateful for where we are, and for having the opportunity to learn at all. If you’ve fallen down, then acknowledge the progress you’ve made so far.

It’s like going on a road trip. Rather than getting anxious about when you’ll arrive at your destination, enjoy the music, the scenery, and the beauty around you.

See, learning is an exciting opportunity to experience something new, to play and to have fun ;-)

And remember: Knowledge is power, and power is freedom.

THE SECRET TO YOUR PERSONALITY IS THE LENGTH OF THIS FINGER.

You can tell a lot about a person just by looking at the shape of their fingers, did you know that? It may sound a bit silly and even stupid, but you’d be surprised at how accurate it can be. Just look at the picture and then look at your fingers, are you type A, B or C? Choose your finger shape and read on if you want to find out. You can check your friends’ shape as well and find out a bit more about their personality. Tell us if you agree with the description, mine was spot on!

TYPE A

You are not very open and you don’t share your feelings easily. You always strive to present yourself much stronger and more independent than you really are.
You are an emotional person and once you feel connected to someone you can be super fine.
You despise lies, hypocrisy and dishonesty because it goes against your beliefs.
You are reserved when it comes to showing emotions and want to appear cool and strong.
You are known to be a bit eccentric and arrogant. You aren’t very tolerant.
You have a big heart, and you like to help others. You will finish every task you are given even if you don’t like it.
You enjoy having a good laugh, and can laugh at anything and everything as long as you are amused, even if it’s not so funny. Your expressions reveal all of your thoughts.
You are generally cold with people you’re not really close to, but can even be overly emotional to your friends and family.

TYPE B

You don’t like to be the first one to approach someone or take actions.
You are very loyal and devoted. If you start falling in love with someone, you will give them your full attention and will always think about them.
Deep down inside you have a very sensitive soul, although it may not look like that at times. Often people get the wrong idea about you because you are pretending to not know anything in order to protect someone’s feelings.
You are very committed, once you set your mind on something, you’ll do your best to finish it until the end.
You’re scared of getting hurt. You want people to think that you don’t need anyone, but you dream of finding your soulmate.
You will stay calm even when you are feeling extremely uncomfortable about something.

TYPE C

You easily forget things that make you upset, and you don’t hold a grudge.
You don’t like unfamiliar territories. It bothers you when you have to deal with anything new and unknown.
You are respectful towards other people’s opinions.
You can sometimes come off bossy because your ego is extremely high when arguing with other people. But, you’ll be the first to apologize afterwards.
You are not very open regarding your problems and feelings, you always keep them to yourself.
You are very straightforward and you know very well what you like and dislike. You also like people to be able to trust you and depend on you.

Have a great day.

Get rid of unwanted memories from your mind forever

Is the joy that should be a part of everyday life being obstructed by memories of the past that you just can’t seem to get rid of?

Do you find yourself constantly reliving past events that bring you down?

Some people have been traumatized by social life, some people stuck in bad and violent relationships, some have been traumatized by witnessing horrific events.

Negative emotions including anger, fear and anxiety can also add to one’s forgetfulness and inability to concentrate.

Some memories can be so painful that you just want to forget them.

Are your memories serving as fuel for negative feelings rather than reflections that bring a sense of joy and warmth?
~ Depression
~ Confusion Thinking
~ Inability to express your emotions
~ Fear
~ Worry

Bad Memories Are Affecting People In Many Different And Negative Ways...

As you can imagine, living life with feelings like these, constantly plaguing your life, can be quite taxing on both your mental and physical health.

The first step in getting your life back on track is being honest with yourself. If you find yourself constantly reliving bad memories, you need to do something about it before things escalate.
~ The Truth About Bad Memories
~ Why Bad Memories Are Negatively Affecting Your Life
~ How To Move On
~ Bad Memory Prevention

Getting over a bad memory, is all about, learning how to teach your mind to let your bad memory go, so you can put it in the past, where it truly belongs now.

If things have escalated and you feel as though your ability to function normally has already been drastically affected, there is hope.

Ps: Eradicate Every Bad Memory That Has Ever plagued Your Life Once And For All!

With the confidence,

Yhemmy

Get rid of unwanted memories from your mind forever

Yhemmy