*LEADERSHIP FOOD FOR THOUGHT.

What is Your *PDP* for 2017?

Your *PDP* is Your *Personal Development Plan*

Your *PDP* must be a *Detailed, Well-Structured, Articulated and Written Plan* that will demand your *loyalty and commitment*.

Your *PDP Guide* must include the following:

1. *Building Spiritual Capacity* (Moving from Just *Relationship* to Quality *Fellowship* with Your *God*)

2. *Inspirational And Motivational Books* to *Read* in 2017 (weekly, monthly or quarterly)

3. *Professional And Career Development* Seminars, Conferences or Workshops to attend. (either *Paid or Free*)

4. *Mentors and Coaches* you must *connect* with in 2017, that will *add great value* to your life and work.

5. *Relevant/Additional Skills* to *Develop* or *Sharpen* to enhance your ability to *SERVE* people and *EARN* more.

6. *Events, Places, Cities And Nations* To *Visit* for personal *relaxation, receation and education*.

7. *Networks or Associations* to join, that will serve as *leverages* for *opportunities* and *connections* (online or offline)

8. What *Products or/and Services* will you be creating in 2017 to multiply *IMPACT* and increase *INCOME*.

9. *Negative Relationships or Friendships* to cut off (that *drains personal energy*)

10. *Wise and Intelligent Investments* to *undertake* in 2017.

11. *Negative Habits, Attitudes and Behaviours* to *confront* and *conquer*.

12. *Positive Habits, Attitudes and Behaviours* to *cultivate* in 2017.

Let Your *Plans* Begin Now!!!

Achieve Your Biggest Goals.

As you are approaching the coming year; only massive, determined actions will stop you from making the same bad decisions that have kept you where you are for so long.

What habits are holding you back?

What self-limiting beliefs do you hold about yourself?

Starting today, shut down the negative thoughts and focus only on achieving those dreams that you know you have the power to achieve. Use these inspiring quotes as the fuel to propel you forward.

1. “Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible.”

2. “Take control of your consistent emotions and begin to consciously and deliberately reshape your daily experience of life.”

3. “Only those who have learned the power of sincere and selfless contribution experience life’s deepest joy: true fulfilment.”

4. “It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.”

5. “We can change our lives. We can do, have and be exactly what we wish.”

6. “Life is a gift, and it offers us the privilege, opportunity, and responsibility to give something back by becoming more.”

7. “It is not what we get, but who we become, what we contribute, that gives meaning to our lives.”

8. “The path to success is to take massive, determined action.”

9. “Whatever happens, take responsibility.”

10. “I’ve come to believe that all my past failure and frustration were actually laying the foundation for the understanding that have created the new level of living I now enjoy.”

11. “Lots of people know what to do, but few people actually do what they know. Knowing is not enough! You must take action.”

12. “Most people have no idea of the giant capacity we can immediately command when we focus all of our resources on mastering a single area of our lives.”

13. “Beliefs have the power to create and the power to destroy. Human beings have the awesome ability to take any experience of their lives and create a meaning that disempowers them or that can literally save their lives.”

14. “There is no such thing as failure. There are only results.”

15. “I challenge you to make your life a masterpiece. I challenge you to join the ranks of those people who live what they teach, who walk their talk.”

16. “How am I going to live today in order to create the tomorrow I’m committed to?”

17. “In life you need either inspiration or desperation.”

I Value You.

Obstacles to your Desire

Pause and Pounder

Every year we approach a new year with expectations.

How many years have we done like that?

2017 is just the same. The years don't change it is we that will have to change to get a different results to the past years.

2016 is approaching the end let's do something different in these last two weeks:

1. Reflect - on all the things you desired in the year.

2. Recall - all the ones that are yet to happen

3. Review - all you did or did not do to bring your dream to reality.

4. Record - all the lessons from what did not go according to plan

5. Research - through: the Internet, your network of people, consult some experts; to find solution to the outstanding goals .

6. Rewrite - the goals and time scales

7. Renew - your mindset with action plans, self determination, commitment, passion, exploring your horizons and build network required for accomplishing those goals.

Hard isn't it. The difference between those who bring about their plans to reality is the effort they put into moving the blockages to the changes in their life. *Challenges* are meant to be stepping stones to the next level. Notice you have double letter 'l' in Challenges then the letter "e". The letter 'e' stand for *efforts* while the letter 'l' stand for: lack, lock, loads, luggage, late, leftover, lazy, laid back, later, leave, loser, little, looking, etc those are the blockages the you need efforts to remove them. Note that the letter 'e' is obscured by the double letter "l"; so it only takes a smarter one to know I can use my efforts to remove the double 'lls' to bring 'Cha' together with 'nges' which is the *'Changes' * I have desired.

2017 is another year don't load it with new hopes and expectations when you have no results from last year. Focus on relevant goals of 2016 in 2017 to tell yourself you can do it. When you start achieving the 2016 goals in 2017 you can start adding some of the 2017 goals. By then you have learnt to understand a goal without your efforts and hope is just a thought.

If you are not doing anything different now you will just be going through the same emotions and thoughts; living all your dreams in your mind. Guess some people enjoy living fantasy than living in reality.

Hey! Where is Faith in all of this? Yes faith is so important it makes you believe your own efforts beyond your capacity and when you start making the efforts, faith help you see things in reality. So use faith to dream beyond your capabilities and capacities while hope see you through actually putting the efforts into your faith.

Enjoy the thrill of Hope while working your Faith.

I value you!

What Are You Filling Your Life With...

PAUSE & POUNDER

Good morning everyone,

A philosophy professor stood before his class with some items on the table in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with rocks, about 2 inches in diameter.

He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles, of course, rolled into the open areas between the rocks.

He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up the remaining open areas of the jar.

He then asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous “Yes.”

“Now,” said the professor, “I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The rocks are the important things – your family, your partner, your health, your children – things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter – like your job, your house, your car. The sand is everything else, the small stuff.”

“If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued, “there is no room for the pebbles or the rocks. The same goes for your life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take your partner out dancing. There will always be time to go to work, clean the house, give a dinner party, or fix the disposal.”

“Take care of the rocks first – the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.”

Have a great day.

Short affirmation and self-reflection

Five Undeniable Facts of Life

PAUSE AND POUNDER

1. Don't educate your children to be rich. Educate them to be Happy. So when they grow up they will know the value of things not the price.

2. Best awarded words in London ... "Eat your food as your medicines. Otherwise you have to eat medicines as your food."

3. The One who loves you will never leave you for another because even if there are 100 reasons to give up he or she will find one reason to hold on.

4. There is a big difference between a human being and being human. Only a few really understand it.

5. You are loved when you are born. You will be loved when you die. In between, You have to manage!

NOTE: If you just want to Walk Fast, Walk Alone! But if you want to Walk Far, Walk Together!

Six Best Doctors in the World

1. Sunlight
2. Rest
3. Exercise
4. Diet
5. Self Confidence and
6. Friends

Maintain them in all stages of Life and enjoy healthy life.

Sent with Smiles, Affection and Love !!!

What is your moment of choice, when the road diverges?

Dearie...,

Its Mid November now...Here's a little inspiration for your if you are a little
overwhelmed in life right now...

Do you at some point in time still tend to dwell in the land of "What if I do this..." and "Why didn't I earlier thought of this..." We as humans are pretty good at condemning and beating ourselves up and feeling guilty over regrets
on our choices...

"What if I have not listen to that Someone and chose that career instead?" or "What if I have persisted and stayed in that relationship?" The list of questions continued as long as we allow them inside our brains.

Why cry over spilt milk? We cannot do much about our past, so why not make the best of where we are now?

"When one door of happiness closes, another opens: but we often look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us." ~ Helen Keller

We are not helpless to change anything. The greatest failure is no courage to try anymore. We are always at a moment of choice and will always be confronted to make new decisions in life...Let the past fades from view and be bold to move forward in life...

It is so often that in the new and unknown, miracles happen and potential unleashed...
You discover abilities that you never know you had...

Remember: Don't let precious time slip away while lamenting on past sorrows. There is no value in feeling depress and sad. Instead, it eats away your joy and peace. Opportunities are abounding and look for open doors instead...

Enjoy.

Reflect..

Pause & Pounder.

CHAIleNGES

The word challenges has two blocks in the form of letter 'l'. All you need to do, to remove the blocks is an 'e' for effort.

So use the 'e' to remove the double 'l' see what is left - Changes.

So next time you are faced with Challenges just look for vision blockers and add extra efforts to remove them, then you can see the changes you desire.

Remember nothing is impossible and the letters in impossible spelt I'm possible.

The letters in Opportunity is nowhere spells Opportunity is now here.

Your thoughts, words, and actions really defines who you really are.

I value you.

Facts of Life

Stay True to Yourself

Hello Gorgeous,

I want to share with you this story I reflected on recently.

Am sure you are familiar with the story or heard about it in form of song from the renowned musician Ebenezer Obey: An old couple had a donkey.

It was their only means of transport to and fro.
One day they were riding together on the donkey, some villagers saw them and commented: "Two people on a donkey's back? Poor animal!" The couple were affected.

On their next outdoors trip, the old man sat on the donkey while his spouse walked. The villagers saw this and said: "He's letting his wife walk? How cruel!" The old man was shocked.

On their way back home, he asked his spouse to sit on the donkey while he walked. The villagers saw it and said: "Letting the wife ride the donkey? How stupid!" The old man was at his wits' end.

At the next outing, both him and his spouse walked while taking the donkey along. This time, the villagers exclaimed: "What idiots! They don't even know how to utilise the donkey!"

Have you ever had similar experiences as the old couple?

The feeling like nothing that you've done is right.

Well, I want to let you know that people will always have something to say about what they see. Everyone has their own perspective on what to do, when to do, how to do things. But they are not YOU.

They may not know you well, they may not know your intents, neither will they really care.
What is most important is you stay true to yourself.

Do what you have to do and don't feel guilty or sad because of what others say about you and of you. You are not your past, neither will your present define your future. Everything great in your future comes from a little shift in your perspective.

Love and forgive yourself and stay true. Fight on!

Be inspired.

Stay True to Yourself

Hello Gorgeous,

I want to share with you this story I reflected on recently.

The 11th Month & YOU.

Today marks the first day of November 2016...How are you doing so far?

Are you fully charged and ready for what lies ahead? If Yes..I wish you all the very best in realising your goals...You will do well.
Just believe in yourself that you can do it!

Or are you gripped by fears and uncertainties in your life? If yes..I will be sharing with you 3 quotes on fear and I hope they can help you find comfort and restore your hope and confidence in life...

You gain strength, courage, and confidence by each experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, “I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.” You must do the thing you think you cannot do. ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn’t exist anywhere except in the mind. ~ Dale Carnegie

“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.” ~ Frank Herbert, Dune

I Value You!

Success Tips For You!!!

Pause & Pounder!

1. Find What You Are Good At

This links in to finding your purpose. We all have a gift, something that separates us from others. For some this gift will differ. Some people have the gift of writing, others sport, others leading. You should find what you are good at and don’t stop there. You’ve got to do it to the very best of your ability. I think that many people underestimate what this means. You’ve got to dedicate every breath in your body to that thing. This is what makes people stand out and what will make you, if you do it, stand out.

2. Are Your Habits Today, In Line With Your Dreams For Tomorrow?

We all have big dreams, admirable dreams, dreams that excite us for the future. The dreams are possible, there’s no doubt about that. However, what we do each day can either bring them to life or keep them at bay, never to be actualized. A lot of the time, our habits are the things stopping us from achieving our dreams. What are your habits? If your habits today are not in sync with your dreams for tomorrow then you’re not going to achieve them. It’s that simple.

3. Don't Be Afraid Of Failure

If you really want to be successful you’ve got to get rid of your fear of failure. Sometimes you’ll miss. But one thing you should never do is allow the misses to stop you from taking shots. You’ve got to keep shooting because if you keep shooting, you increase your probability of success. Keep Shooting.

I value you.

Early Morning Ritual To Kickstart Your Day

You don’t have to be a morning person to benefit from morning rituals. Most people hit snooze, roll out of bed and into some clothes while plunging into their day without a plan. You, however, can choose to approach your day mindfully. Being mindful will increase the odds that you will feel good, be more productive and end up happier when it’s all over.

Meditation

Meditation or even some simple breathing can help you begin your day with a sense of calm. Instead of reaching for your phone or checking email first thing in the morning, take just a few minutes to sit and experience the quiet. There is plenty of activity during our day, make a commitment to start on a quieter note. It will set the tone for your day and will help increase your focus, energy, and optimism.

REFLECT IN GRATITUDE

“If the only prayer you said in your whole life was, ‘thank you,’ that would suffice.” – Meister Eckhart Start your day by reflecting on what you are grateful for. A consistent practice of gratitude in the mornings will increase your awareness of gratitude throughout your day. It will also make you more resilient when challenges occur and help you put drama in perspective.

SET YOUR DAILY INTENTION

In the quiet of the day, before the fires need putting out, plan your day by focusing on three goals you want to accomplish. Make those goals a priority for the day. When you set about planning your day with intention, you are more likely to feel productive at the end of it.

PAD YOUR SCHEDULE

As you go about setting your daily intentions, pad your schedule to allow yourself to tend to fires as they arise. Padding your schedule with free time will give you a better chance of achieving your goals and may even add some downtime throughout the day.

HYDRATE

Your body awakens dehydrated, so it is very important to drink up first thing in the morning. Donna Gates suggests you drink half of your entire daily water intake by mid-morning. It will flush your system of toxins, leave you feeling less hungry and reduce headaches throughout the day.

STRETCH

You will be hard-pressed to find anyone who doesn’t wake up feeling a bit stiff. It isn’t always easy to incorporate exercise into a morning routine. If you were going to choose one thing, the American Journal of Sports Medicine suggests adding a short muscle-stretching sequence of exercises to your morning schedule. Studies show that consistent stretching in the morning can increase flexibility, improve circulation, reduce stress throughout your day and improve posture.

LISTEN TO MUSIC

Starting your day with upbeat and fun music will not only wake you up but it will fill you with positive energy for your day. A 2013 study found that music makes you feel good. According to study participants, the two most important benefits of listening to music are “mood regulation” and “self-awareness.” Not only has it been shown to improve your mood but it can end up increasing motivation, performance, and lead to a better night’s sleep too.

SMILE

Start your day off by smiling at yourself in the bathroom mirror. Smiling will have a positive effect on your overall attitude and well-being, even when it starts out a little forced. Smiling makes you more approachable, and appear more trustworthy. In fact, The University of Montpellier discovered that smiling will also make you a more effective leader.

VCLEAN UP AFTER YOURSELF

Life is busy and morning routines can be a bit rushed. It can be very tempting when you are running behind to leave your clothes on the floor, dishes in the sink or leave the trash until later. Just do put them away! Procrastination around cleaning up after yourself can prevent you from realizing our highest potential and best work. It also allows you to relax fully upon returning home. It is better to pro-actively clean up after yourself than waiting to be called out on it.

DO YOUR HARDEST TASK FIRST

It might seem enticing to get a bunch of easy things checked off your to-do list, but it has been shown time and time again that doing your hardest task first leads to a more productive and happier day. You are more likely to remember the day as being a good one when your day gets better and is easier over time. The bonus: it helps stop procrastination over the things we like to do the least.

I Value You.

Make YOU a Priority...

It is important that you make time for yourself--you can't help others if you don't help yourself first. What's needed is radical self-care:

Be deliberate in your choices. We can't be all things to all people. Sort out what's really important to you and exercise your right to say no. Saying no is saying yes to yourself.

Alone Time. Set aside at least ten minutes daily to reflect; make it part of your routine. Your priorities are always changing. If you don't take stock of what you need and want, you'll be operating from what worked in the past.

Brag to You, About You. Do you get stuck on what you didn't do rather than what you've actually accomplished? Give yourself the credit you deserve; you do a lot.

I Value You. Cheers

The Importance of Dream Board

What are the advantages of having a Dream Board?

The advantages are as follows:-

‎1. It is a joyous and fun activity. It

allows us to become a child once more.

2. It clarifies our goals and is also a gentle ‎reminder to us to chase our goals and dreams.

Sometimes our morale is down. By looking at the ‎dream board at the wall will spur us once more.

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3. It is a great tool to help us with
visualisation. Not many people can visualise ‎vividly. Therefore holding a mental picture of what we want for about ten to fifteen minutes a day will allow us to focus sharply and achieve our goals. Do you know that visualisation is one of the most powerful mind exercises that one can do?
Olympians use imagery as mental training.

4. It gives us a chance to think beyond our l‎imitations. It aids us in helping us to open up‎ and attract opportunities to transform those

dreams into reality.

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5. It encourages us to take action.

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I hope we all learn something from the sharing

I Value You.‎

The Truth About Life and You

Never stop learning. With the rate at which technologies are changing today, if you decide that you are “done” learning, you will be left behind within a matter of years, if not sooner. The idea that you can’t teach an old dog new tricks is blatantly false, and you will never wake up and regret having invested in your mind by learning something new
Diversify. Hand in hand with learning, if you stick to only doing what you know, or what you are good at, you may quickly find that you’re only good at one thing. We need to be agile, nimble, and interested in many different things. Otherwise, you could get stuck in a job or career you don’t love, or that goes with the times. Think of the taxi driver threatened by Uber or the customer service person replaced by a chatbot.
You can go fast alone, but you can go farther together. In other words, teamwork makes the dream work. Many people claim they don’t like to work in teams, but the ability to work well in teams is vital if you want to succeed. The idea of the solo auteur is a myth; every big idea needs a team to make it happen.
Worrying doesn’t achieve anything.The antidote to fear and anxiety is action and hustle. If you’re wasting time because you’re afraid to pursue an idea, speak up, or are worried what others will think of you, you won’t achieve your goals. If you push through the worry and the fear, however, and take action, you’ll almost always find that you were worried about nothing.
Failure is not an end. If you give up when you fail, you’ll never learn anything. Instead, look at failure as an opportunity, as the beginning of a new journey. If you do, you’re much more likely to try again and succeed at something else.
Happiness is a journey, not a destination. So many people put off their happiness; they think, “I’ll be happy when I get that job, when I lose that weight, when I’m in a relationship, when I’m out of a relationship…” and so on. But we can choose to be happy. Happiness is a habit and a choice. No matter what your situation, if you can approach it with an attitude of happiness, you will be more successful.

I Value You.

THE 5 D’S TO ADDING VALUE TO ONE’S LIFE

1. Discover better ways to do things

2. Disregard your background-your background is not a reason for your back to be on the ground.

3. Distinguish yourself-what are you good with/at/on? Question everything; know your natural habitat.

4. Deliver excellence-timely submission of assignments

5. Drive-through situations-keep your dreams alive, every challenge in life is a phase in life.

In conclusion, "The true value of a human being is determined primarily by how he has attained liberation from the self".

Try to become not a man of success, but rather to become a man of value…

I value you.

Natural Remedies For Your Sagging Breast...

Every woman in the world wishes to have good-looking and well formed breasts through their whole life. The breast sagging is a process that comes with age as a result of losing their flexibility and mildness.

Here are many simple and easy home remedies that you can try to firm sagging breasts.

1. Ice Massage

Ice massage is also considered very effective to regain firmness in sagging breasts and uplift them. The cold temperature will cause the tissue to contract, in turn making the breasts appear firmer and more lifted.

Take 2 ice cubes and massage them in circular motions around each of your breasts for 1 minute only.
Dry the breasts with a soft towel and immediately put on a proper fitting bra.
Stay in a reclining position for 30 minutes.
Do this at regular intervals throughout the day.

Note: Do not expose your breasts to ice for more than 1 minute at a time as it can cause numbness.

2. Shea Butter

Another natural ingredient to firm and tighten breasts is shea butter. It is a great source of vitamin E that tightens the skin to give your breasts a firmer appearance. Also, it helps prevent cell damage caused by free radicals.

Rub some shea butter onto your breasts.
Massage in an upward and circular direction for 10–15 minutes.
Leave it on for another 10 minutes and then wash it off with water.
Follow this remedy 3 or 4 times a week to see noticeable results.

3. Olive Oil

Massaging your breasts with olive oil is an excellent technique to firm sagging breasts. Olive oil is a rich source of antioxidants and fatty acids that can reverse the damage caused by free radicals and prevent sagging breasts. Plus, it will help improve the skin tone and texture.

Put some olive oil onto your palms and rub them together to generate heat.
Rub your palms over your breasts in an upward motion.
Massage gently for about 15 minutes to increase blood flow and stimulate cell repair.
Follow this remedy at least 4 or 5 times per week.

You can also use almond, argan, avocado or jojoba oil to massage your breasts.

4. Exercise

Those with saggy breasts must incorporate exercise in their daily routine. Exercises that target breast tissues and pectoral muscles around the chest can help a lot to add firmness.

Some exercises that can effectively lift up and firm sagging breasts are– chest presses and pulls, arm raises, round-about push-ups, and dumbbell flyes.

Additional Tips

Avoid extreme dieting as drastic weight loss in a short time span can cause your breasts to sag.
Always wear the right fitting bra to provide enough support for your breasts. If needed, wear a push-up bra to give your breasts proper support. Wear a sports bra while doing aerobic exercises, playing tennis, jogging or doing any kind of workout that causes the breasts to bounce.
If you are overweight, lose weight. Excessive body weight causes the skin to stretch and breasts to sag.
You can also try yoga to tone and tighten the breasts within a realistic range.
Eat healthy foods with essential nutrients like proteins, vitamins, calcium, minerals, carbohydrates and essential fats that are required to firm up the breasts.

Enjoy.

Why Ladies Shouldnt Wear Bra To Sleep

Wearing bra at night is a common matter of debate. Some women feel it safe to wear bra while sleeping. But if you wear bra while sleeping, then you may face these health problems.

Disturbed sleep: Wearing a bra will definitely going to disturb your sleep.

Sweating and Skin irritation: Wearing bra while sleeping make you sweat more. This will also trigger skin irritation.

Reduce circulation: Wearing bra while sleeping may reduce circulation. This makes your sleep uncomfortable.

Oedema: Wearing bra at night causes lymphatic blockage. Lymphatic blockage may result in oedema or fluid accumulation in the bre@sts.

Cancer: Some studies show that wearing bra while sleeping increase chances of bre@st cancer.

Pigmentation: Pigmentation in portion where elastic is tighter is a common problem but wearing bar while sleeping make it worse.

Restlessness: Wearing a tight bra while sleeping can make you restless in the night. Restlessness will have adverse effect on your health.

I value you.

Falling In Love

Hey Gorgeous,

Fall in love with someone who chooses you just as confidently as you choose them. Commit to the person who lifts you up whenever things get rough, the person who fights to make things work when the reality of life gets difficult and discouraging.

Fall in love with someone who sees the wars within you and not only chooses to stay, but chooses to stand by your side and help you fight them. Strive to find someone who cradles your dark, who embraces your light, someone who always wants to be your best when you yourself are not your best; someone who reminds you of every strong thing you are whenever you feel feeble.

Fall in love with someone who does not make you feel like you are hard to love. Give your heart to someone who does not call you weak for feeling so deeply, someone who adores the soft creature you are, and who fights to protect it in a hardened world.

Fall in love with someone who challenges you, who inspires you to think and feel. Fall in love with someone who ignites a wildness within you; someone who grows your mind just as much as they grow your heart.

Fall in love with someone who respects you for changing because they understand that it means you’re growing. Dedicate yourself to the person who stands in awe of how you bloom, how you flourish; someone who loves you not only for who you are, but for who you have the potential to be.

Please, do not ever settle for less. Keep waiting. Keep learning about yourself, keep trying and fighting for the heart within your chest. Keep growing and nourishing your wants, keep discovering your needs. When the time is right, you are going to fall in love with someone who will appreciate everything you stand for, who will compliment you in ways you never imagined. When the time is right, the love you have always been worthy of will flower within your life, and you will finally, finally, understand why you had to wait so long.

I value you.

Major Things You Should Never Do to Please a Man…

There are certain things you should never do for a man in order to make him happy, these are some of them.

Couple Cuddling --- Image by © LWA-Dann Tardif/Corbis

Many ladies in the society have been brainwashed into believing it is entirely up to them to keep a man at home and make a relationship work. This is the mentality that is being passed on to the young ladies who have attained the age of marriage.

Words like love, faith, patience, resilience, commitment, dedication and prayer are terms you have to deal with as couples. Women are not born with these qualities or virtues; the strong and reputable women you see in the environment had to work on themselves. A woman who has all these qualities is considered to be refined.

For a woman to be able to possess these qualities, that means it is possible to find men with outstanding qualities too. So why do women weigh themselves down with the burden of making relationships and marriages work if the holy matrimony is perceived to be a hypocritical religious devotion by the men?

This primitive school of thought has subjected lots of women to slavery in their relationships; they have forced themselves to endure scorn and hardships while some put up with cheating men who cannot pay their own bills.

Find below some of the things you should never do to please a man:

1. Never agree to sleep with another man to get him a job or contract

Some women claim to be so much in love with their men to the point that they would do anything for them. You should never allow a man to coerce you into doing things that are beneath your standard.

If you are willing to sleep with your boss to get him a job or a contract, then you are putting yourself on the spot as you have given him a reason big enough for you to break up.

Apart from him not trusting you, you could suffer a big depression as you have compromised your standard and this may dwindle your self-esteem.

2. Do not agree to threesome even if he suggests it

Men have crazy s*xual fantasies; you should never give in to anything that would make you get ridiculed at the long run. the only reason why this may not matter to you is if you are in for the fun of it.

But even at that, your integrity is at stake. Do not agree to let him sleep with your friend while you are there and do not succumb to sleeping with him and his friend too.

Your emotion would be on the line and things would get messy at the long run. Think about this; will a man who wants to marry you be willing to share you with his friend?

3. Do not give him the history of your life

Now, no one is asking you to be secretive in your relationship. It is important for you to open up to your partner and discuss issues that would push your relationship ahead.

While doing this, you should know that your partner doles not need every detail of your life. Some ladies make this silly mistake of baring everything as soon as they fall in love. Not every man deserves to know your history as those things could be used against you.

4. Avoid sending nude pictures of yourself

Ladies globally most especially in Nigeria please wake up. It is not okay for you to send naked pictures of yourself to any man simply because you are trying to bridge the gap between you both. A man that would cheat would always cheat no matter what.

Even when you trust your partner and know that your nud3 pictures are safe with him, have you thought about what could happen if his phone got stolen?

The pictures could get into the wrong hands and you could become one of those girls whose nud3 pictures are displayed in social media.

5. Never give up on your dreams

There are so many talented and intelligent women in the society; these women have loads of potentials stored in them. However, they have recoiled into their shells because they want to please their partners.

They would give up on their dreams and embrace that of their partners. It would be difficult living a fulfilled life if you always subject yourself to the opinions of others.

Be inspired.

Things We Need To Let Go Very Fast

10 Weird Things We Need To Let Go

Everybody wants to be happy, but only few are brave enough to put in the work to be so. It’s not some magical feeling that finds its way to your life.

You need to be self aware in order to even begin to find happiness. It really starts with you. You need to get to know yourself, what you’re looking for, what you like, what you don’t like, things like that.

There’s a lot of learning involved before you can say you are truly happy. It’s a constant process, not some prized possession you leave in a trophy case.

Here are some of the things we need to let go because they hinder us from finding true happiness:

1) Others’ approval

Basing your life decisions on other people’s feelings about it is insane. You know that you can’t please everybody, you know that there will always be something someone won’t approve of or will displease them.

Why bother seeking comfort in others’ approval when it means sacrificing what would make you happy? That’s not comforting at all. That you have to give up what would make life better for you for people who aren’t going to live it for you.

Your life is yours alone. Live it according to you.

2) Pride

Nothing ever gets resolved with this. If you’re stubborn and refuse to believe you’re wrong, especially when you are, then you’re not helping yourself.

Part of growing, of evolving into the person you’re supposed to become is in knowing when you’re right, and knowing when you’re wrong.

If you know you’ve made a mistake, have the humility to admit it.

3) Expectations

Yes, the golden rule, treat others the way you would want them to treat you, is a good measure of how you should be, but it doesn’t guarantee that others will follow suit.

You can’t expect people to act and react the way you would given a particular situation. You can only hope that they do right by you, but if they don’t, you need to be the one to adjust accordingly.

4) Anger

Staying mad at people who have wronged you will only make you feel burdened. It’s going to weigh heavily on you, not them, if you don’t learn to let go of it.

Anger is consuming and if you don’t know how to handle it correctly, it can and it will take over your life–how you see things, how you feel about people, etc.

It’s always best to forgive people, even if you haven’t received an apology.

5) Idea of Perfection

Life isn’t perfect, people aren’t perfect, even the perfectly planned vacation isn’t always perfect.

Why insist on perfection when nothing really is?

Learn to recreate your definition of what perfect is, something that’s attainable. Like, a perfect day is getting to see at least one of your loved ones, or going home to your family, having a nice dinner, and sleeping on a comfortable bed.

Your definition of a perfect partner, a perfect life, is up to you. Make it count.

6) Greed

The quest for more could land you in a lot of trouble. Sometimes our lust for more power, more money, more danger, takes over reason and logic.

You need to ask yourself what’s driving your ‘need’ to want the things you want. You’d be surprised how little you actually need to live a happy life. Less is more.

7) Excuses

You will always find a reason to do something and not do something else.

Our reasoning depends on how much we want to do one thing.

Stop making excuses for why you’re not where you want to be, why you’re not doing what you’re passionate about, why you don’t have the body you dream of, etc.

If there’s a will, there’s usually a way.

8) Thoughts of the past

Staying stuck in the past could really hurt your chances of being happy now.

Stop thinking about your ex and what they did to you. They are out of your life for a reason, and one of them is so that you wouldn’t have to think about them anymore.

Stop thinking about friends who stabbed you in the back or pushed you down.

If they’re not part of your life anymore, then you’ve done yourself a favor.

That promotion you didn’t get last year, then try your best to get it this year. That vacation you couldn’t afford, book it now. Move up and move on.

9) Insecurities

There will always be people better than you. There will always be someone better looking, more hardworking, sexier, more intelligent, and the list is endless.

But it doesn’t matter.

You need to be enough for yourself, in your own eyes.

Most of the time, your loved ones already know that you don’t need to be more for them to love and accept you. You need to see yourself through those eyes from time to time.

10) Control

By now you already know that as much as you like planning things to the detail, there is a very real chance that they won’t be followed.

Life is more than the things we plan.

The spontaneous things, the ones that surprise us are the ones that really make us feel alive.

Also, attempting to control how others see you or how they feel about you is a futile effort. The best you can do is make yourself the kind of person that you want to be and the right people will love you for exactly that.

Control is good for certain things, but it’s not something you should attempt to do all the time and get anxious about when things don’t go your way. Learn to let things happen as they will.