Please Yourself First

Become my own best friend. 

For my happiness, I’m in charge. I stopped expecting others to make me happy and to fulfill my needs and desires.
I’ve made myself a priority in my own life. I engage in activities that bring me joy. I do more things for my heart and soul. This way, I create happiness from the inside out instead of chasing it through other people.
It is not my husband’s responsibility to make me feel valued, cherished, loved, whole, and complete; it’s mine.
Loving ourselves as a whole—mind, body, and soul—is not selfish; it is necessary. Being loved is a human need. However, being needy is something different. I came to understand that people who are taking good care of themselves are less dependent on the approval of others.
I pay attention to my self-talk. I eliminated disempowering words or thoughts from my repertoire: “I am stupid,” “I am too fat,” “I’m a failure,” “I’m not good enough.”
I treat myself with dignity and respect. I talk to myself kindly. I don’t call myself names and I acknowledge myself for my achievements, for my willingness to learn and grow. This way, my cup of self-love is always full, and external praise comes as a bonus.
I practice the art of embracing praise. I take compliments gracefully instead of putting myself down, as if I’m unworthy of such a celebration. I enjoy when people compliment me but I am not dependent on them to feel good about myself.
“It’s not your job to like me; it’s mine.” ~ Byron Katie
Once I decided to embrace myself with love and compassion, being alone didn’t feel scary or hard, and I started to enjoy my own company.
Just think from this perspective: Out of everyone you know in the world, the only person that is always present in your life, non-negotiable, day and night, is you. So if you don’t like being all by yourself, at least from time to time, you might need to work on the most important relationship you’ll ever get in life: the one with yourself.
To some people, the need to be alone could also be a personality issue, as introverted persons want to charge their batteries from the inside out and don’t always need to be surrounded by people. Meanwhile, I have met very extroverted people who suddenly didn’t need to spend so much of their time with others and started focusing more on themselves.
Being liked and included and feeling a sense of belonging to a community are basic human needs. As defined by Descartes, humans are “social animals.” However, many people use others as a diverting tool that helps them run from themselves.
I’ve been there as well in the past—spending time with others to feel seen or included, or keeping the TV switched on all day long in my home, even if I wasn’t watching. In reality, I was using that noise to run from my own thoughts and emotions.
When we have a harmonic relationship with ourselves, we no longer look to other people to fill holes in our self-esteem. We need people but we aren’t emotionally needy. There’s a big difference between the two.
“You can never feel lonely when you like the person you’re alone with.“ ~Wayne Dyer

(c) 2018 by Olayemi 


Rule 1.Choose your friends wisely. People can often surprise you.

Rule 2. Guard your personal information. You should only tell people what they need to know.

Rule 3. Trust people slowly. Always be the first one to welcome and befriend someone, but be the one of the last to truly trust them. 

Self Esteem

Never let anyone talk you down NEVER! Never let anyone make you feel any lesser than you are, because you are you. 
Be yourself, Be conscious of yourself, don't loose your self esteem all in the name of keeping friends, or in the name of marriage.

When you look around you will find out some person's has lost their self esteem, self worth all in the name of pleasing someone who they feel they owe so much to. 

Some lost theirs while growing up, while some lost theirs in the kinda relationship /Marriage they found themselves.

Self esteem is called SELF and esteem for a reason because it is YOU 👉you and you ALONE! It's your identity DO NOT LOOSE IT FOR ANYTHING.

I keep saying it everyone are unique in their own different ways so do not try to be somebody else rather be the better Version of yourself. You are Beautiful, unique, smart, Strong Don't let anyone take that away from you.

Keep wearing your armour of self esteem!

Take charge.



MARRIAGE is like a shoe. When you wear oversize be ready to drag it along through out life, and when you wear under-size be ready to feel the pains through out life." One thing about marriage is that you don't drop your shoe or remove it at any point, no matter how painful or how stressful it is.

That is why I thought it necessary to write you this letter.

Dear Singles,

When you are ready to buy your own shoe please take note of these three things:

Do not look for the beautiful ones, the nice ones or the cheap ones. Look for the one that is your size. Not every handsome, wealthy or intelligent guy is for you, not every beautiful woman is for you. Look for the one that is meant for you, the one that aligns with your values and beliefs, the one who you meet at your life's journey. 

It is important to know where you're going in life before you think of getting a wife or a husband.

All sizes of shoes are not placed in the same place.
There is a place for court shoes, laced up shoes, sport footwear, snickers etc. We have Children sizes, young people's sizes and the adult sizes. Know where to get your own shoe. Your size cannot be everywhere my brother, your type cannot be everywhere my sister. You cannot be a Christian, and be looking for a wife material at a club. Your wife or husband can't just be everywhere.

Stick to your values and therein you shall find someone like you, but when your values are not defined anyone can just match you. Discover yourself and define your values

In this kind of shoe purchasing enterprise, you are not permitted to try the shoe before you buy. This is why it is important to seek guidance and counseling, from people who have bought shoes before or are into the business of directing people to the right shoes (pastors, marriage counsellors and Relationship coaches).

And most importantly to avoid much time wasting , simply consult the shoe manufacturer to tell you your size (Almighty God).
NOTE :"You do not prepare for wedding, you prepare for marriage."

Ladies of today get so motivated when they attend weddings and they will quickly want to say yes to that guy. Wait!!! It is not just the wedding ooooh.

The wedding is just one day. After the wedding. WHAT NEXT?

Finally, it is not something you rush to the market and just pick a shoe because you like or can purchase it.

Ask questions

*Where is this shoe made from? (Background)
*What's the size (Values)
*How mucgh (His/Her interest)
*How long will it last (His/Her Character)
*Who made it? (Is she/He of the same faith This is compatibility)
*Will it match me? (This is whether he/she loves you and will accept you the way you are).

Dear one, remember many are dragging their foot and they would hardly reach their destinations, many are feeling endless pains and wish they could pull off the shoes but no way!!! I have seen people with beautiful shoes and when they show you their foot, you will see scars.

Beloved, it is not about the physical, it is the size, you can't know the size from afar so come close, build a relationship first but remember 'you are not permitted to try it before you buy it'.

And for those who have purchased the wrong shoes, you can still make it your size again if you'd consult the manufacturer and let Him have His way in your marriage.

May God bless us all. Feel free to share to all singles, you might be touching someone's life.

 Have a great day.

Your Perspective

Pause and Pounder...

People around Orita UI - Agbowo environ called him mad man but I was surprised when he moved close to me, and said, “can I ask you a very important question?” I nodded, in acceptance, and then he asked, “am I a mad man?”

The obvious answer, from a sane person, will be, "no", and that was what I said. “Thank you!”, he replied; then he said, “just because I don’t see things the way other people do, does that make me a mad man?” "No", I answered again.

He bent down, wrote “W”, and asked me what he wrote. At this point, I was already feeling ashamed, getting involved in a lengthy conversation with him. In a hurry to leave, I said “w”, but I was amazed when he replied to my answer, “You only see 'W', because of the angle at which you are looking at it. If you turn upside down, you'll see “M”; from the right side, it is “3”, and from the left side, it is “E”.

The fact that I don’t see things at the perspective that everyone is seeing it doesn’t make me a mad man, he said. Then he left.

I pondered for so long about this though; and more, its application to life.

We act, and relate to people, based on the perspective at which we are looking at their situation. Have you taken your time to look at other possible perspectives, views and angles, maybe, a little from their own view before we judge them?

I then decided that, before I get angry with, or act against, or judge, anyone that has done something unfavourable to me, I will view it in at least three possible perspectives, mine, theirs and others'.

So, before you judge people, before you rage your anger on them, take a little time to view their angle or perspective, and, if you still cannot see a reasonable reason, then you may act REASONABLY.

Have a great day dearie.

(c) Olayemi 2018.

Time Stops! A Story On Life Prolongation



Time stops .
Ever gone through a happy moment when time stops and seize to run its course? Walking hand in hand with your life partner into the sunset.
Cuddling with each other on a grass field while watching your children chasing each other around.

Time stops.
When your heart is broken. When you are still shell-shocked by the effect of her walking out through the door. It was your mistake, even though you had never intended to be harmful.
The usual routine of enjoying each other just side by side is replaced with emptiness. And hurt. Before you know it, dawn breaks. Where did those time go?

Time stops.
When you choose to take control of your life. Eat healthy, exercise, invest in skin care and supplements.
You can’t prevent the cruel onslaught of aging. You can’t evade the day you are to stand and be accountable to God.

But you can buy time. You can desire to look and feel young again. The wisest choice you’ve ever made with your hard-earned living, is to Buy more life itself --- time.

Here’s how. Invest in your body. Because when your body is able, your spirit can be willing all the time.
Because my body is able. I can stay up late to pray. I can pursue him by doing all the background work he didn’t see. I can correct the wrong that I’ve made and continue living without regret and depression.

All because I bought time. Because its worth it.
Just so you know. All these things. Not for yourself. But for the ones you love.


Time stops.

Yours truly,
Olayemi Agboola.

Motivational Story... A Stormy Night.

One stormy night an elderly man and his wife entered the lobby of a small hotel in Philadelphia, USA trying to get out of the rain . They approached the front desk in order to get some shelter for the night.
“Could you possibly give us a room here?” – the husband asked. The clerk gave a broad smile , looked at the couple and explained that it was unfortunate that there were three simultaneous conventions in town. “All of our rooms are taken,” the clerk said. “ But I can’t send a nice couple like you out into the rain at one o’clock in the morning. Would you perhaps be willing to sleep in my room? It’s not exactly a suite, but it will be good enough to make you folks comfortable for the night.” When the couple declined, the young man insisted . “Don’t worry about me, I shall be fine.” the clerk told them. So the couple agreed.
As he paid his bill the next morning, the elderly man appreciated the kindness of the clerk and said to the clerk, “You deserve to be the kind of manager who should be the boss of the best hotel in town. Maybe someday I’ll build one for you.” The clerk looked at them and smiled. The three of them had a good laugh. As they drove away, the elderly couple agreed that the helpful clerk was indeed an exceptional manager.
Two years passed. The clerk had almost forgotten the incident when he received a letter from the old man. It recalled that stormy night and enclosed a round-trip ticket to New York, asking the young man to pay them a visit. The old man met him in New York, and led him to the corner of Fifth Avenue and 34th Street. He then pointed to a great new building there, a pale reddish stone, with imposing elevation and watchtowers thrusting up to the sky.
“That,” said the older man, “is the hotel I have just built for you to manage.” “You must be joking.” – the young man said. “I can assure you I am not.” – said the older man, a sly smile playing around his mouth. The older man’s name was William Waldorf-Aster, and that magnificent structure was the original Waldorf-Astoria Hotel. The young clerk who became its first manager was George C. Boldt. This young clerk never foresaw that a single act of kindness would catapult him to become manager of one of the world’s most glamorous hotels.
Be kind to everybody. It will enrich you multi fold in the long run.

For You to...


I don't know who this is meant for, I felt very strong to share the experience,
"I walked into a hotel and after going through the menu, I ordered some food. After about 20 minutes a group of guys and ladies walked in and ordered for theirs. To my dismay, these folks got served first. I watched as they began to eat and laugh heartily. I even overheard one of them bragging about how connected he is to everyone in the hotel and I felt mocked. I decided to leave. Unable to take it anymore, I called the waiter. He calmly told me: *"yours is a special order, being prepared by the chief chef himself. Their orders were prepared hurriedly by students on attachment because the top chefs are busy with yours sir. That's why they were served first. Please have some juice as you wait".* I calmed down and waited patiently.

Shortly after, my meal was served by 6 waiters. Unknown to me, the owner of the hotel (who happened to be an old long lost friend of mine) saw me when I entered and decided to surprise me. She changed my simple meal to a five-star meal. The party at the other table were shocked. They couldn't stop staring. Suddenly they were the ones murmuring, asking why they didn't get that kind of service and meal.

Such is life! Some people are ahead of you and are eating now, laughing at you and talking about how they are smarter, wiser and better than you, how they are well connected, blessed, have money and are enjoying life. You are waiting tirelessly wondering why it's taking so long to breakthrough, You endure mockery and humiliation. Maybe you have contemplated suicide, gone through depression or suffered severe mental anxiety. Do not worry! The owner of the world has seen you and doesn't want you to be served a simple meal like those making mockery. You're waiting long because yours is a special meal. It takes time to prepare. And only chief chefs prepare them.

Wait for your meal and relax. When it comes that laughing party will be silenced for good.

Stay Blessed and enjoy your day.

This is my word of encouragement to YOU today.

Olayemi (c)2018


Most downfalls of men are caused by MULTIPLE girlfriends.

Sex is a spiritual encounter I stand to be corrected, not every girl has a good spirit,some are demon, some has
poison in between their legs, some are killers and destiny destroyers, be careful. Worst is a man who can't control his sexual urge. A man who can control
his sexuUal urge is a man who can live many years on earth.
1. Having many girlfriends does not make you a man. It only makes you a womanizer and a cheat and a boy.

2.  A real man has only one woman in his life.
3. For the fact that you are good in bed does not make you a man. A real man is the man who does not run away from his responsibility but faces it squarely.

4. You don't need to sag your trousers and walk round the street before girls will love you. Infact it is only small boys that sag trousers and it is premature little girls that fall in love with men who sag trousers.
5. Don't use and dump ladies. Remember the law of karma. Whatever you do, you will receive the reward.

6. If you cannot make her your wife, don't make her a mother. If she can't be your wife don't sleep with her.
7. Do not obey your erection at all times. Most times our erections mislead us to the wrong direction. Control your erection. Don't let your erection control you. If you don't you will have few days on earth with much poverty on you. You may insult me but it doesn't matter to me now, because am done telling you this.

8. It is not everything you see under skirt that you should hustle to eat, some skirts contain snakes that will bite you and leave you uncomfortable. Control your sex urge. Self control and abstinence in most cases pays a lot.

9. Do not date a lady because she has sexy curves, boobs and shapes. Those things are just packaging; and packaging can be very deceptive avoid such, don't fall for what's called the irony of social Media.
10. Respect any lady that loves you. Yes, its not easy for a lady to throw her love on you and support your future.

11. Do not beat any woman, even if she is not your wife.
12. Real men don't gossip. Learn to keep secret shared with you by any Lady that is what makes you a man enough to enjoy the comfort of a lady.
13. The world only celebrates successful men. Nobody will celebrate you for having many girlfriends. Therefore what is the benefit? Waste of energy and waste of protein.

14.Marrying a woman doesn't mean she is your property, Treat her with respect ...Make her your queen,love her, honour her and give her a reason to
treat you the same. Remember, what you give is what you get.

Finally Don’t be a cheating man. You’re losing life. You think you are playing the game and winning, but you are actually losing. You can get over on some women but you can’t fool your Creator. You will reap what you sow, so you better start trying to grow good things. Juggling women doesn’t make you a man. 

Being honest, loyal & faithful that's the trademark of a real man. 

May God bless your relationship.

Life Phylosophy

In a mother’s womb were two babies. One asked the other: “Do you believe in life after delivery?” The other replied, “Why, of course. There has to be something after delivery. Maybe we are here to prepare ourselves for what we will be later.” “Nonsense,” said the first. “There is no life after delivery. What kind of life would that be?” The second said, “I don’t know, but there will be more light than here. Maybe we will walk with our legs and eat from our mouths. Maybe we will have other senses that we can’t understand now.” The first replied, “That is absurd. Walking is impossible. And eating with our mouths? Ridiculous! The umbilical cord supplies nutrition and everything we need. But the umbilical cord is so short. Life after delivery is to be logically excluded.” The second insisted, “Well I think there is something and maybe it’s different than it is here. Maybe we won’t need this physical cord anymore.” The first replied, “Nonsense. And moreover, if there is life, then why has no one has ever come back from there? Delivery is the end of life, and in the after-delivery there is nothing but darkness and silence and oblivion. It takes us nowhere.” “Well, I don’t know,” said the second, “but certainly we will meet Mother and she will take care of us.” The first replied “Mother? You actually believe in Mother? That’s laughable. If Mother exists then where is She now?” The second said, “She is all around us. We are surrounded by her. We are of Her. It is in Her that we live. Without Her this world would not and could not exist.” Said the first: “Well I don’t see Her, so it is only logical that She doesn’t exist.” To which the second replied, “Sometimes, when you’re in silence and you focus and you really listen, you can perceive Her presence, and you can hear Her loving voice, calling down from above.” — from Olayemi by Pablo J. Luis Molinero.


Hi dearie,

Today, I would like to share with you a short story on gratitude:

One day, a rich dad took his son on a trip.
He wanted to show his son how poor someone can be, to teach his son to appreciate what they have.

They spent time on the farm of a poor family.
On the way home, dad asked, "Did you see how poor they are? What did you learn?".

Son said,
"We have one dog, they have four.
We have pool, they have rivers.
We have lanterns at night, they have stars.
We buy foods, they grow theirs.
We have walls to protect us, they have friends.
We have encyclopedias, they have Bible."

And the son added on, to the amusement of his dad, "Thanks dad for showing me how poor we are."

From this story...I learnt that being rich and wealthy is not solely determined by how much money we have.

Being wealthy, is a matter of perspective.

Today my reader,

Choose to take on a perspective of gratitude...

Because that is what makes you Rich....and see how your world changes with it.


Release Your Past.

Don't be held by a LIMITING BELIEF from the past.

Was it something your teacher or parent once said?
Was it a one-time failure at school that scarred you?
Was it a boss that stuck a finger in your face and say you’re no good?

So (insert your name), today I remind you to shine bright.

And let go of the past.

You are every bit as valuable, smart and incredible as the next person.

You’re capable of so much more the moment you allow yourself to tap into your innate gifts and talents.

As you reflect on this reading, be reminded by how much potential you possessed…

You’re a pearl and the world is your oyster.
YOU’re a diamond in the rough, YOU’re full of potential.



If you had to be 100% honest with yourself -

Do you think it's possible you've been hiding behind beliefs like:

“I’m too old to start over."

“I'm too busy to learn new things."

"I'm not smart/talented/lucky enough to get what I really want."

If you have, there’s something important you need to remember: 

All of these beliefs are simply illusions.

Because no matter where you come from or where you're at right now -

You have the power to transform your beliefs, and in turn, your life with guided meditations, meaning you have to unplug and delete a lot fro your sub-conscious mind.

So, if you feel stuck, stressed, frustrated or undeserving, and you think some of that negativity may be coming from inside you, then quick to guide your mind.

Awesome Gift for You

When embarking on the journey of personal development, keep in mind the following steps:

-Establish the goals you want to reach in all areas of your life

-Look for the weaknesses that need improvement in order for you to reach these goals

-Identify the different opportunities to develop the weaknesses

-Set up your plan of action for improving the weaknesses

-Make time for nurturing your strengths

-Record the outcomes of your development

-Evaluate your outcomes against your goals

Remember, personal development can help you in all the areas of your life and is therefore largely a personal journey, but one that needs to be prioritized.

The benefits are that you grow as a person while growing your skills, you improve your self-awareness, and you boost your confidence.

*Thot of the day:*

*If God has called us to leadership, we’ll be unfulfilled in any other role.

* The call to leadership requires:

1) *Competence.*
We must recognise our gifts, and then channel our energies into where we’re most likely to succeed. *That means acknowledging our limitations and helping equip others to fill them.* To do that, we must be secure.

2) *Courage.*
Scott Peck said, *’The best decision makers are those willing to suffer the most over their decisions but still retain their ability to be decisive.'* Good leaders are not necessarily the cleverest or most creative people, *they're just the ones with the courage to step out and go first.

3) *Clarity.*
Let’s be clear about our goals, even though we’re not certain as to the details.

4) *Coaching.*
Without good coaches we’ll never be as good as we could be. If we’re hoping to learn everything from personal experience, all the best; we’ll have to outlive Methuselah!

5) *Character.*
Character provides the moral authority to bring together the people and resources needed to get the job done. *Our talent has the potential to take us places where our character can't sustain us. That thought should keep us on our knees.*

Simple Secrets to a Happy Life...

Want to find more joy in your everyday life?

Joy is what makes life beautiful. It’s what gets us through challenges and allows light in to illuminate the shadows. Joy heals our wounds, inspires us to greatness, and fills our souls with goodness.

Helen Keller said, “The best and most beautiful things in life cannot be seen, not touched, but are felt in the heart.”

Some of the most beautiful things in life are also the most simplistic.

Here are 9 Tips for a Happy Life:

#1  Don’t be afraid to make mistakes.

#2  Be aware of any negative thoughts you hold about yourself.

#3  Read some good uplifting books.

#4  Make an effort to try and look on the bright side of things.

#5  Learn what is important to you in life.

#6  Focus on the present moment.

#7  Step out of your comfort zone once in a while.

#8  Train yourself to finish what you start.

#9 Realize that setbacks and knocks are just a normal part of life.

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If you had to be 100% honest with yourself...
Do you think it's possible you've been hiding behind beliefs like:
“I’m too old to start over.”
“I'm too busy to learn new things."
"I'm not smart/talented/lucky enough to get what I really want.”
If you have, there’s something important you need to remember:
All of these beliefs are simply illusions.
Because no matter where you come from or where you're at right now -
You have the power to transform your beliefs, and in turn, your life.


Always remember, life doesnt always introduce you to the people you want to meet, sometimes life just puts you in touch with the people you need to meet, to help you, to hurt you, to leave you, to love you, and to gradually strengthen you into the person you were meant to become.

It's indeed a great privileged and honour meeting with you. Wishing you success in all your life endeavour.

See you at the top where you belong.




I started the day with H and ended up with Y mean Happy
👉 Trying to ignore what others think about me
👉 Trying to smile in spite of the pain I felt
👉 Try to stay tough with whatever happens
👉 Try to be patient even though you have been hurting many times
👉 Trying to always understand that not everything you do can be accepted by others
👉 Trying to always stand straight up against everythingI started the day with H and ended up with Y mean Happy
👉 Trying to ignore what others think about me
👉 Trying to smile in spite of the pain I felt
👉 Try to stay tough with whatever happens
👉 Try to be patient even though you have been hurting many times
👉 Trying to always understand that not everything you do can be accepted by others
👉 Trying to always stand straight up against everything


Reflection of Yourself...

You fall, you rise, you make mistake
You live, you learn
You're human not perfect
You've been hurt but you're alive
Think what precious privilege it is to be alive
Sometimes there is sadness in your journey, but there is also lots of beauty we must keep putting one foot in front of the other even when we hurt
For we will never know what is waiting for us just around the bend 🤔
Have nice night!

Health Secret


Always remember, its not what you look at that matters, its what you see.

Have a great day.

Do You Choose to Say I Can, or I Can’t?

Do You Choose to Say I Can, or I Can’t?

“The difference between can and cannot are only three letters. Three letters that determine your life’s direction.”

What do say to yourself, when you need to make a decision or take action?

Do you have enough self-esteem, feel confident, and are strong enough to say, “I can”? Or maybe you lack self-confidence and inner strength, feel too lazy, or are afraid to do new things, and therefore, you say, “I cannot”?

Do you know that with a little inner strength and willingness to be just a little adventurous, you can say “I can”, and dare to do new things?

“I cannot” leaves you where you are and you live the same life day after day.

Saying “I can”, opens new doors and new opportunities for you. These words take you in a different direction from the people who say, “I cannot”.

When you say “I can”, you tell yourself that you have faith in yourself and are willing take action, handle things, take action and responsibility, and learn new things. This could be:

Learning a foreign language
Being nice to someone
Fixing something
Graduating from college
Learning a new skill
Working in a certain job
Handling a certain situation
And many other things
Saying “I can”, means that you take responsibility for your life, while saying “I can’t”, or “I cannot”, means giving up without trying.

You can always choose one of these two alternatives. It’s like standing at crossroad choosing which way to go. One way leads to action and achievement, and the other non-action and no progress.

As said at the beginning of the article, the difference between the words can and cannot are only three letters, but they determine where you will go and where you will arrive.

So, what do you choose?

What’s stopping you to say “I can”, fear, habit, lack of self-confidence or laziness?

Why not start with simple things, telling yourself that you can:

Start going to the gym.
Get up a little earlier in the morning.
Be a little kinder with people.
Smile more often.
At least once a day, say “I can” and mean it, about something that you face in your daily life, instead of saying “I can’t”.

After a while, you will be able tackle greater things, because you learn to tell yourself “I can”.

Strengthening your willpower and your self-disciple, makes it easier to say “I can”.

pause and reflect

I  couldn't resist sharing this beautiful story 😊
This story is about a beautiful, expensively dressed lady who complained to her psychiatrist that she felt that her whole life was empty, it had no meaning.
So, the lady went to visit a counselor to seek out happiness.
The counselor called over the old lady who cleans the office floors.
The counselor then said to the rich lady "I'm going to ask Mary here to tell you how she found happiness. All I want you to do is listen to her."
So the old lady put down her broom and sat on a chair and told her story:

"Well, my husband died of malaria and three months later my only son was killed by a car. I had nobody. I had nothing left. I couldn't sleep, I couldn't eat, I never smiled at anyone, I even thought of taking my own life. Then one evening a little cat followed me home from work. Somehow I felt sorry for that cat. It was cold outside, so I decided to let the cat in. I got some milk, and the cat licked the plate clean. Then it purred and rubbed against my leg and, for the first time in months, I smiled.

Then I stopped to think, if helping a little cat could make me smile, may be doing something for people could make me happy.
So, the next day I baked some biscuits and took them to a neighbor who was sick in bed.
Every day I tried to do something nice for someone. It made me so happy to see them happy.
Today, I don't know of anybody who sleeps and eats better than I do.
I've found happiness, by giving it to others."
When she heard this, the rich lady cried. She had everything that money could buy, but she had lost the things which money cannot buy.
"The beauty of life does not depend on how happy you are; but on how happy others can be because of you..."
Happiness is not a destination, it's a journey.
Happiness is not tomorrow, it is now.
Happiness is not dependency, it is a decision.
Happiness is what you are, not what you have..😊
I appreciate you.


Pounder On It...

Whatever we touch, we leave fingerprints... As we touch other people's lives, we leave our identity in them. Life is better when you are happy; but life is at its best when others are happy because of you.
Be faithful in touching other people's hearts; be an inspiration. Nothing is more important and worth practising than being a channel of God's blessing. Nothing in nature lives for itself. Rivers do not drink their own water; Trees do not eat their own fruits. The sun does not shine for itself; and Flowers do not spread their fragrance for themselves.
Living for others is a rule of nature. We were all born to help one another. No matter how difficult the situation you find yourself in; still do good to others.

How to Inspire Your Husband

A wife has the unique ability to help her husband feel the freedom to reach his fullest potential as the man God has created him to be.

As a wife, you do possess a unique power to inspire your husband. Your loving vision of the man he’s becoming propels him toward greatness—not necessarily by the world’s yardstick of success, or even your own, but of God’s.

When you believe in him, he is secure. He can take the leaps of faith required to surmount fear. He can bear up under pressure, pioneer new territory.

An inspired husband feels the freedom to reach the fullest potential of the man God has created him to be. He’s not merely encouraged. He’s a man who’s empowered; a conqueror. If you want to give your man some “wind beneath his wings”… start here.

1. Send him an e-mail. Example: “Praying for you today. Thanks for being so courageous in ___.”

2. Give him one night on a regular basis to do something he loves.

3. Consistently mention ways you see him growing to be more like Christ.

4. Initiate great sex.

5. Ask him about his “bucket list”—the top list of things he’d like to do in his lifetime.

6. Give him a book or audio CD to learn about something he loves doing.

7. Ask him about some dreams he has—and pray about them together, evaluating them. Then ask how you can help him go after them.

8. Text him on a stressful day. Example: “REMINDER: I BELIEVE IN U.”

9. Make sure he feels respected by you.

10. Leave sticky notes in his lunch, on his steering wheel, in his briefcase, etc. “So proud of all you’ve been doing with ___”. “You are so great with our kids.” “You are my dream come true.” “You are an incredible lover.”

11. Suggest that he take some time to go pursue a hobby.

12. Leave a message on his voicemail: “Thanks for going to work every day to take care of our family. You are so good at what you do.”

13. Ask him how you can pray for him at work. Later on in the week, get an update from him on what you’ve prayed for.

14. Be proactive about doing something together that he really enjoys. Make a date, get him excited, and share his enthusiasm!

15. Tell him areas he’s gifted in. Don’t stretch the truth: Be honest so he can trust you.

16. Pray for him.

17. Initiate great sex.

18. Start and keep a “Dreams” binder with him. Include some travel brochures or whatever gets you both energized. In the back, make sure you have a “Dreams turned reality!” file.

19. Talk with your husband about setting aside a small part of the budget to pursue the unique ways God has designed him (including his gifts, abilities, and passions)—through education or through sheer enjoyment.

20. Post on his Facebook wall: “I love being your wife! See me tonight regarding this.”

21. Gently communicate with him about what you like in bed, and respond encouragingly to his attempts.

22. Remember a dream that he had a long time ago. Talk to him about whether it’s still a dream—and still a possibility.

23. Ask God to open your eyes to the ways He has made your husband unique, and to give you wisdom about how to maximize that workmanship.

24. Have your children write him notes or letters about what they love about him as a dad.

25. Ban yourself from nagging, which is the Great Life-Sucker.

The questions

Here is something for your weekend...

How to take control of my life? Perhaps a parable will help you see my point.

High on a hilltop overlooking the beautiful city there lived an old man who was a genius. Legend had it he could answer any question anyone might ask of him.

Two of the local boys figured they could fool the old man, so they caught a small bird and headed for his residence.

One of the boys held the little bird in his hands and asked the old man if the bird was dead or alive. Without hesitation the old man said, ” Son, if I say to you that the bird is alive, you will close your hands and crush him to death. If I say the bird is dead, you will open your hands and he will fly away. You see, son, in your hands you hold the power of life and death.”

In your hands you hold the seeds of failure or the potential for greatness. Your hands are capable but they must be used and for the right things to reap the rewards you are capable of attaining.


Life Decision

Life is very unpredictable, sometimes you go to the LEFT where nothing is RIGHT and sometimes you go the RIGHT where nothing is LEFT.

Today,s decision can determine your tomorrow's destination.

Be honest with yourself when making a choice.

Decision making is one of the hardest things in life.

A confused man is a blind man, be very careful if you don't know where you are going, because you
might end up no where in life.

KNOWLEDGE is knowing what you WANT while WISDOM is choosing what you NEED.

Never loose your priorities in your journey of life.

Don't be too shy or too proud to seek advice, but be very careful from who and where you seek advice.

The only advice you can get from a fool is a foolish advice.

Don't make decisions when you are sad and don't make promises when you are happy.

Never make a permanent decision in a temporary situation.

Blindness is never in the lost sight but in the lost focus.

The best way to see life is to sometimes close your eyes.

Until you stop looking at everything, you may never see anything.

Pay more attention to what's important and the unimportant things will gradually finds its way out of your life.

To follow the crowd is to miss the crown.

Be bold to follow your own path in your journey of life.

Never trust a new friend with all your mouth.

If you have a secret keep it to yourself because once it's out of your mouth, it's already in the news.

Everybody has a dirty linen in their closets never wash your own in public.

If you think you have seen it all try and look again.

Some things are not GOLD they only glitter.

What's behind 6 is far more than 7 and 8.

If it looks too good to be true, it may have a fault.

Free things always come with high price in life.

Never say YES to any favour that will later demand for your happiness and freedom in life.

Never allow a temporary enjoyment to take your everlasting joy away.

Never put your hope in human being if you want peace of mind.

Those who put their hope in human may die serving them.

If you are confused about life, put your hope in GOD.

GOD will never give you stone when you ask HIM for bread.

Those who put everything in GOD's hand will eventually see the hand of GOD in their everything.

GOD may not come on time but HIS timing is always the best.

Take charge.

New Beginnings and Final Endings

There has to be endings to create new beginnings. And just like what Mitch Albom, author of “The Five People You Meet in Heaven,” wrote: “All endings are also beginnings. We just don’t know it at the time.”

An old year ends and a New Year begins, full of promises of change and new experiences. 

It’s a great way to look at endings in our lives. Some endings, such as the death of a loved one, will leave you sad, but if you can accept it as an entire host of good memories and eventually go on with what the new beginnings have in store for you, you’ll live a happier and more fulfilled life.

Each step in your life is necessary for you to continue growing. The end of high school or college signifies the beginning of an adult lifestyle and possibly a career that you’ve studied for.

Every New Year is an opportunity for you to sit down and figure out what you want to do differently this year that will make you a better and happier person.

Do you want to lose weight, quit smoking, move on to another job?

Now is the time to rethink and reset your goals and make the necessary changes in your life.

Whether the previous year ended on a good note or not, you have to get a grip and move on. Otherwise, it'll interfere with the future you want to have and keep you from making the changes you need to make.

If you don’t learn to accept endings to allow for new beginnings, you could simply give up and that would mean unhappiness and a lifetime of regrets.

Think about things in a new way. You may think of yourself as “set in your ways,” about certain things, but you have the right to change your mind if something occurs (such as more knowledge) to tilt your thinking another way. Sometimes it helps to gain a fresh perspective on life and let go of old beliefs.

Take the chance whenever an exciting and fulfilling idea appears in your life. In this way, you will live without regrets.

To your successful 2018,

For: GirlsAffair

Note: A good mental well-being will mean a good start to the new year too. Stay calm throughout the new year wit your positive confession.