Questions!!!

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When was the last time you paused as a human being to ask yourself the following questions: -


  • How true and practicable is everything I have been learning daily, weekly and montly? 
  • How credible is the source of the person teaching me & is it the truth or the cultural interpretation of what is being taught?
  • How come I haven’t gone global with every activity I have subjected myself into?
  • How come it is still easy for others to hurt or disappoint me? 
  • Will I ever become a billionaire if I continue to listen to what I hear now or continue to do what I am doing? 
  • Am I really functioning at my best level and intentionally positioning myself to be used of God to birth his new invention?


Life doesn't respond to your desires; life respond to your demand.


Words From A Mother To Her Daughter About Marriage



1. The wife that wins all arguments with her husband is not wise. The home is not a law court. 


2. The wife that uses sex as a weapon in the home - placing embargo, going to bed in jeans

shorts and trousers - lacks wisdom. 

3. The wife that uses the modern trends and laws of "women's rights" to insult or ridicule her husband simply makes a fool of herself. 

4. A woman that makes her home devoid of peace through bickering, nagging and quarrels  needs help. A man should be eager to run away from office to be at home, for that should be the safest and coziest place on earth for him. 

5. Modern-day equality in marriage does not mean competition. It simply means partnership. Taking advantage of such equality to turn around and become the de-facto head of the home and oppress the man is tantamount to playing with fire. If you destroy your home, soon you will be the boss of an empty home. 

6. A wise wife makes the man feel so good that he assumes that he is the head. Once he gets that feeling, the woman gently wields her power and the head actually turns to wherever the neck wants without a protest. 

7. A wife that does not pull herself away from friends' influence and advice or even from the

control of her mother and father will have herself to blame. 

8. When a man is looking for a wife, he bypasses women of different shapes and sizes to choose a wife. But soon after childbirth, many women hide under the excuse of childbirth to let go of themselves. Many stop bothering about their looks, shape, dressing, etc. Within 5 years of marriage, people start wondering if the wife is the man's aunt, even though she is 7 years younger. Her defense is that if he truly loves her, he should love her the way she is. But when looking for a wife, he saw people like the present YOU and ignored them and settled for the former YOU. 
Today, you go to bed smelling of onions.... 
You go to bed wearing grandmothers' clothes. 
Why are you playing with your marriage? 
Love is not about looks - we know. 
But looks enhance love and marriage. 
There is a difference between someone disfiguring herself and the person being disfigured by an accident. 
Please don't be complacent. As hard as it may be, work on looking like you were when he first saw you and began the chase. 

9. If every night you are tired, sleepy, sore, down with headache or fever, "not in the mood," you are a joker, a serious comedian! 
10. If your children suddenly become more important to you than your husband, you need

prayers. 

11. If you assume that as the woman, only you need to be pampered and fussed over while

the man is a stone that has no emotions, you need to be pitied. 

12. A woman that has the mind of a wife does not excite her husband. Wives are usually complacent and presumptuous. A wife must strive to have the mind of a girlfriend. A girlfriend is always nicer, sweeter, more loving and always thinking of ways to wow her sweetheart; a girlfriend does not try to win all arguments, does not call the man a "useless man", is not careless about her looks or dressing, always smiles and laughs with the man, sends the man sweet messages and calls, etc. Are you your husband's girlfriend in word and in deed?

WORDS FROM A FATHER TO A SON ABOUT MARRIAGE


1. My son, if you keep spending on a woman and she never asked you if you’re saving or investing, and she keeps enjoying the attention, don’t marry her. 

2. My son, a woman could be a good wife to you, some could be a good mother to your children but if you’ve found a woman like a mother to you, your children and your family, please don’t let her go.

3. My son, don’t confine the position of your wife to the kitchen, where did you get that from? Even in our days, we had farm-lands where they worked every morning . . . that was our office.

4. My son, if I tell you that you’re the head of the house, don’t look at your pocket; look if you will see a smile on your wife’s face.

5. My son, if you want to have a long life, let your wife be in-charge of your salary, it will be difficult for her to spend it when she’s aware of the home needs and bills to pay but if it’s in your care, she will keep you asking even when all has been spent.

6. My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the pain in her body is nothing to be compared to the wound on her heart and that means you may be in trouble living with a wounded woman.

7. My son, now that you’re married, if you live a bachelor kind of life with your wife, you will soon be single again.

8. My son, in our days, we had many wives and many children because of our large farm-lands and many harvests, there are hardly any land for farming anymore, so embrace your woman closely.

9. My son, under the cocoa tree that I did meet your mother could be your eateries and restaurants of nowadays, but remember, the closet thing we did there was to embrace each other.

10. My son, don’t be carried away when you start making more money, instead of spending on those tiny legs that never knew how hard you worked to get it, spend it on that woman that stood by you all along.

11. My son, when I threw little stones or whistled at the window of your mother father’s house, to call her out, it was not for sex, it was because I missed her so much.

12. My son, remember, when you say your wife has changed, there could be something you've stopped doing too. 

13. My son, your mother, Asake rode the bicycle with me before I bought that tortoise car outside there, any woman that won’t endure with you in your little beginning should not enjoy your riches.

14. My son, don’t compare your wife to any woman, there are ways she’s enduring you too and has she ever compared you to any man?

15. My son, there is this thing you people call feminism, well, if a woman claim to have equal right with you in the house, divide all the bills into two equal parts, take one part and ask her to start paying the other part.

16. My son, I met your mother a virgin and I took more yams to her father, if you don’t meet your wife a virgin, don’t blame her, what I didn’t tell you is that our women had prestige.

17. My son, I didn’t send your sisters to school because I was foolish like many to think a female child won’t extend my family name, please don’t make that mistake, the kind of female achievers I see nowadays has made the male-gender an ordinary tag.

18. My son, your mother have once locked up the cloth I was wearing and almost tore it because she was angry, I did not raise my hand to beat her because of a day like this, so that I can be proud to tell you that I never for once beat your mother.

19. My son, in our days, our women had more of natural beauty, though I wouldn’t lie to you, some had minor painting of their appellation mostly on their arms, the ones you people now call tattoo, but don’t forget that they didn’t expose any part of their body like your women of nowadays.

20. My son, your mother and I are not interested in what happens in your marriage, try to handle issues without always coming to us.

21. My son, remember I bought your mother’s first sewing machine for her, help your wife achieve her dreams just as you’re pursuing yours.

22. My son, don’t stop taking care of me and your mother, it’s a secret of growing old and having children to take care of you too.

23. My son, pray with your family, there is a tomorrow you don’t know, talk to God that knows everything, everyday

7 key marriage lessons that should be your guiding principles (single or doubled)


1. Never Deprive your spouse with Attention, Love and Affection. These Three ingredients are necessary in every relationship. Thus, it forms the bedrock your marriage is seating on for growth and relationship.

2. Never Leave Your Role As A Wife To a Housemaids Or Personal Staffs Even If Your Husband is a King, a Pastor or other top post in the society.

3. Never Encourage Long Distance Relationship In Your Marriage. Work Hard To Make It As Short As You Can If You Have To. Never Neglect Your Spouse Thinking that Money Can Keep Her Warm At Night And Play Fatherly Role To Your Kids. Remember, you need one another to grow and survive a lot together.

4. Celebrate Every Occasion With Your Family~ Christmas, Sallah, Anniversaries, Birthdays etc. And Don’t Forget To Celebrate Your Spouse In Every Given Opportunity You Have (you really owe your family a lot on this).

5. No Matter How Holy Ghost Filled And Tongue Talking Christian You Are, Listen and Apologize When You Are Wrong And Make Amends Before Your Marriage Breaks. Make Changes On Time, When You See It Is Not Working.

6. Court Is Not A Solution To Family Problems, The Solution Lies In The Spouse. If Only The Spouse Can Reduce Their Pride And Ego And Accept Their Wrongs and Make Amends On The Areas That Are Not Working, They Will Live Happily Ever.

7. Never Forget To Recognize Your Wife As The Most Important Being In Your Life After God, And Never Forget That Your Husband Is The Most Important Being In Your Life. That’s Why Michelle Obama Is Always Beside President Barrack Obama (a good family to emulate their life style and a welcome attitude to emulate).

However, A successful marriage requires tolerance, understanding and effective communication.

Save yourself the shame and save your marriage, the earlier the better. 

Have a great day with your spouse when you are done reading but don't forget to make a necessary amendment/ adjustment on any points you think you are not measuring up.

Enjoy.

CLEAN YOUR KIDNEYS

Years pass by and our kidneys are filtering the blood by removing salt, poison and any unwanted entering our body. With time, the salt accumulates and this needs to undergo cleaning treatments and how are we going to overcome this?
It is very easy, first take a bunch of parsley or Cilantro ( Coriander Leaves ) and wash it clean
Then cut it in small pieces and put it in a pot and pour clean water and boil it for ten minutes and let it cool down and then filter it and pour in a clean bottle and keep it inside refrigerator to cool.

Drink one glass daily and you will notice all salt and other accumulated poison coming out of your kidney by urination also you will be able to notice the difference which you never felt before.
Parsley (Cilantro) is known as best cleaning treatment for kidneys and it is natural!

5 Rules 4 Life

  1. Make peace with your past so it won't hurt your present
  2. What other people think about you is none of your business but what you think about yourself
  3. Time heals everything with the exception of none. So, give it time
  4. No one is in charge of your happiness, except you
  5. Never compare your life to others & don't judge them, you have no idea what their journey is all about

Think Through

Refrain from depending on others to define your goals for you. 
Life is what you make it. 
Quit complaining, and realize that life is, indeed, what you make it: you came into this world with nothing, you will leave this world with nothing and everything in between is up to you.

You are the star, witness to your own worth. If you believe that you are worthwhile, people will take that into account. If you do not like yourself, people will take that into account as well. If you don't like who you are, do some real soul-searching to improve on those parts of you that you know you want to or need to improve.


"I trust you"
Is a better compliment than
"I love you"
Because you may not always 
trust the person you love
But you can always love 
the person you trust.


Seven Reasons We Don’t Take Care of Ourselves

I meet a lot of people in the course of my ministry. Sadly, I see too many who are not taking care of themselves. Many of them clearly feel terrible. Anyone can see this in the way they look and the way they carry themselves. You simply cannot look really great if you don’t feel great. How you feel will show up somewhere; in your body language, the dull look in your eyes, or even the color of your skin.
It is in our nature to take care of ourselves, so why don’t we? I thought about the ways that this can go wrong, and I came up with these reasons:
1.        We don’t know how to take care of our physical bodies. Decades of bad diets, misinformation, and easy access to fast food and prepackaged food have left people amazingly confused about what a wholesome diet is and how they should eat.

2.        We have a skewed body image planted in our minds by media and advertising. On one side we are inundated with unattainable ideals of beauty, while on the other, obesity is so prevalent that it’s almost considered the norm. We need to reset our internal picture of what a healthy person should look like.

3.        We have lost touch with exercise. For virtually all of human existence, exercise was an integral part of our daily existence. Now we've invented enough conveniences that we often live completely divorced from exercise. However, it turns out a good deal of our well-being is dependent on exercise.

4.        We have let ourselves slip into unworkable lives. With the incredible pressures of juggling career and parenthood, paying steep loans and increased fuel prices and burning the proverbial candle at both ends and everywhere in between, it is oh-so-easy to put the workout off, grab a cheeseburger on the run, cheat our sleep time in order to catch up on paperwork and let the tail wag the dog until we’ve cut everything out of our lives that once gave us pleasure or kept us sane. This is bad enough, because life is a gift and is meant to be joyful. It should be pleasurable and sane.

5.        We have become pathologically selfless. Selflessness can be addictive. It feels so good to do for others and it makes us feel important. Yes, it is a good thing to help others and should be a major part of our life, but in my line of work, I often see people who routinely ignore their basic needs. The only thing that gives them meaning is doing things for others. This is admirable, but it can easily cross the line into mistaking suffering for virtue. Martyrs usually end up bitter. And once the body breaks down and life is no longer joyful, it becomes increasingly hard to serve anyone. Volunteers in a soup kitchen don’t let their pots fall apart while they ladle out one more bowl of soup. They take the time to care for the equipment they need to do their calling. And you should do the same with your most important piece of equipment—your body.
I am not suggesting that we be selfish because that renders us very unhappy and is not how God teaches us to live. We are to live sacrificially and be involved in doing good works, but we must not ignore our own basic needs in the process. Everything in life must be balanced or something breaks down and quite often it is us.
6.        We have lost our support. When we don’t have a good social network or a godly foundation to keep our spirits high, it becomes easy to slip into boredom, loneliness, and depression. If we aren't able to somehow fill that void, the devil will. You may have heard the saying “Nature abhors a vacuum.” Well, let me tell you, the devil loves one! He’ll put lots of bad food within easy reach and let you mistake spiritual or emotional hunger for physical hunger. Maintaining a good support network is a terrific way to prevent the formation of bad habits.
We need to have right people around us who will speak if they see us getting out of balance. We need to spend regular time in fellowship with God and learning His principles. His Holy Spirit who works through His Word convicts us of wrongdoing and gives us the chance to make positive changes before we break down or become ill.
7.     We have forgotten our own value. This is the biggest reason we don’t take care of ourselves. If you don’t understand your own importance in the Big Plan, taking care of yourself seems pointless. Reminding you of your place in God’s plan is my first and most important task.
If you’re not sure of your value in God’s eyes, then I invite you to read this article. There’s a crucial link between our spirits and our bodies that we all need to understand.
God has a great future planned for you and you need to be ready for it! You need to look great and feel great, ready to do whatever God asks of you.
coined from Joyce Meyer.

TIME!!!

Imagine there is a bank, which credits your account each morning with N86, 400, carries over no balance from day to day, allow you to keep no cash balance, and every evening cancels whatever part of the amount you had failed to use during the day. 

What would you do? Am sure you will definitely draw out every penny! Well, everyone has such a bank. Its name is TIME.

Every morning, it credits you with 86,400 seconds. Every night it writes off, as lost, whatever of this you have failed to invest to good purpose. It carries over no balance. It allows no overdraft.

Each day it opens a new account for you. Each night it burns the records of the day. If you fail to use the day's deposits, the loss is yours. There is no going back. There is no drawing against the "tomorrow."

Therefore, there is never enough time or too much time. Time management is decided by you alone and no one else. 

It is never the case of you not having enough time to do things, but the case of whether we want to do it. So, invest more in your time today as if tomorrow will never come.